“No matter how much we plan and prepare, life calls and we have to answer.”

Being held accountable for racism and feeling shame is not the same thing as being shamed.

Learning is hard. Unlearning is harder. Pretending that most of us don’t need to do either when it comes to racism is its own form of violence.

Who we are and how we engage with the world are much stronger predictors of how our children will do than what we know about parenting.

We either stay sick together or we get well together.

Be you and serve up some belonging wherever you are.

What separates privilege from entitlement is gratitude.

Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy – the experiences that make us the most vulnerable.

We all have patterned ways of dealing with anxiety that are often set up in our first families. Understanding how and why can set us free.⁣⁣

Cruelty is easy, cheap and rampant.

I think we’re all feeling the “groundlessness” of life right now.⁣

You cannot shame or belittle people into changing their behaviors.

I am not here to be right.

There is no justice without accountability.

Talk to yourself like you would talk to someone you love.

Don’t try to win over the haters; you are not a jackass whisperer.

Shame is the most powerful, master emotion. It’s the fear that we’re not good enough.