The pain is there; when you close one door on it, it knocks to come in somewhere else.
IRVIN D. YALOMThere is some evidence, for example, that those who enter the death-related professions (soldiers, doctors, priests, and morticians) may in part be motivated by a need to obtain control over death anxiety.
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I feel strongly, because a man who will himself die one day in the not to distant future and, also, as a psychiatrist who spent decades dealing with death anxiety, that confronting death allows us, not to open some noisome.
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He had learned long ago that, in general, the easier it was for anxious patients to reach him, the less likely they were to call. (107)
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The more you fail to experience your life fully, the more you will fear death.
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I think we ripple on into others, just like a stone puts its ripples into a brook. That, for me, too, is a source of comfort. It kind of, in a sense, negates the sense of total oblivion.
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Not to take possession of your life plan is to let your existence be an accident.
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Perhaps the single most important therapeutic credo that I have is that the unexamined life is not worth living.
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To the best of my knowledge, every acute inpatient ward offers some inpatient group therapy experience.
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When we have forgotten ourselves and become absorbed in someone (or something) outside ourselves
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If people in their 20s had more death awareness, would that in fact temper their ambition or drive?
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None of my patients are really troubled by the idea that some part of what they say might be in a book in the future.
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There is some evidence, for example, that those who enter the death-related professions (soldiers, doctors, priests, and morticians) may in part be motivated by a need to obtain control over death anxiety.
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A free man who lives among the ignorant strives as far as he can to avoid their favors. A free man acts honestly, not deceptively.
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It’s not easy to live every moment wholly aware of death. It’s like trying to stare the sun in the face: you can stand only so much of it. Because we cannot live frozen in fear, we generate methods to soften death’s terror.
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Your greatest instrument is you, yourself, and the work of self-understanding is endless. I’m still learning.
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The path to decision may be hard because it leads into the territory of both finiteness and groundlessness—domains soaked in anxiety.
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Love is not just a passion spark between two people; there is infinite difference between falling in love and standing in love.
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A focus on this deep dissatisfaction is often the starting point in overcoming death anxiety.
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I dream of a love that is more than two people craving to possess one another.
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You know, I think everybody I’ve seen has come from some other therapy, and almost invariably it’s very much the same thing: the therapist is too disinterested, a little too aloof, a little too inactive. They’re not really interested in the person, he doesn’t relate to the person.
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All these things I’ve written so much about. That’s why I’ve made such a practice really, over and over to hammer home the point of self-revelation and being more of yourself and showing yourself. Every book I write I want to get that in there.
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Some day soon, perhaps in forty years, there will be no one alive who has ever known me. That’s when I will be truly dead – when I exist in no one’s memory.
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The spirit of a man is constructed out of his choices.
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Does a being who requires meaning find meaning in a universe that has no meaning?
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We project ourselves into the future through our children; we grow rich, famous, ever larger; we develop compulsive protective rituals; or we embrace an impregnable belief in an ultimate rescuer.
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I don’t let any personal views about religion cause me to want to take away something that’s offering the patient comfort.
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As we reach the crest of life and look at the path before us, we apprehend that the path no longer ascends but slopes downward toward decline and diminishment. From that point on, concerns about death are never far from mind.
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