Every person must choose how much truth he can stand.
IRVIN D. YALOMThe pain is there; when you close one door on it, it knocks to come in somewhere else.
More Irvin D. Yalom Quotes
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A sense of life meaning ensues but cannot be deliberately pursued: life meaning is always a derivative phenomenon that materializes when we have transcended ourselves.
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The act of revealing oneself fully to another and still being accepted may be the major vehicle of therapeutic help.
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A free man who lives among the ignorant strives as far as he can to avoid their favors. A free man acts honestly, not deceptively.
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If one is to learn to live with the dead, one must first learn to live with the living!
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When we have forgotten ourselves and become absorbed in someone (or something) outside ourselves
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Only free man are genuinely useful to one another and can form true friendships. And it’s absolutely permissible, by the highest right of Nature, for everyone to employ clear reason to determine how to live in a way that will allow him to flourish.
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I think my quarry is illusion. I war against magic. I believe that, though illusion often cheers and comforts, it ultimately and invariably weakens and constricts the spirit.
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Though the physicality of death destroys us, the idea of death may save us.
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Perhaps the single most important therapeutic credo that I have is that the unexamined life is not worth living.
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The more unlived your life, the greater your death anxiety.
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Psychiatry is a strange field because, unlike any other field of medicine, you never really finish.
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Were not teaching our students the importance of relationships with other people: how you work with them, what the relational pathology consists of, how you examine your own conscience, how you examine the inner world, how you examine your dreams.
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Death loses its terror if one dies when one has consummated one’s life!
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Living safely is dangerous.
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Rather, love is a way of being, a “giving to,” not a ‘falling for”; a mode of relating at large, not an act limited to a single person.
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Some sort of greater awareness of their own finiteness and what their time on earth really is, and what they really want to do with their lives, could help improve them.
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Just as you were about to step on it, I asked you “Do you want to cross the footbridge to me?” – Immediately you did not want to anymore; and when I asked you again you remained silent.
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The drive for power is not uncommonly motivated by this dynamic. One’s own fear and sense of limitation is avoided by enlarging oneself and one’s sphere of control.
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A focus on this deep dissatisfaction is often the starting point in overcoming death anxiety.
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Heidegger makes the distinction between being absorbed in the way things are in the world and being aware that things are in the world.
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Pandora’s box, but to re-enter life in a richer, more compassionate manner.
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I don’t let any personal views about religion cause me to want to take away something that’s offering the patient comfort.
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This was due to a kind of increased existential awareness that resulted from this confrontation with the death of another. And I think it brought them in touch with their own death, so they began to experience a kind of preciousness to life that comes with an experience of its transiency.
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The therapist can make the group feel safer by allowing each patient to set his or her limits and by emphasizing the patient’s control over every interaction.
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The more you fail to experience your life fully, the more you will fear death.
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If people in their 20s had more death awareness, would that in fact temper their ambition or drive?
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