Some day soon, perhaps in forty years, there will be no one alive who has ever known me. That’s when I will be truly dead – when I exist in no one’s memory.
IRVIN D. YALOMA free man who lives among the ignorant strives as far as he can to avoid their favors. A free man acts honestly, not deceptively.
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If I’m among men who don’t agree at all with my nature, I will hardly be able to accommodate myself to them without greatly changing myself.
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I must stop him from being one of those who call themselves good because they have no claws.
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If one is to love oneself one must behave in ways that one can admire.
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We take pleasure not only in the growth of our patient but also in the ripple effect—the salutary influence our patients have upon those whom they touch in life.
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And if you do the latter, you’re not so worried about the everyday trivialities of life, for example, petty concerns about secrecy or privacy.
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Psychiatry is a strange field because, unlike any other field of medicine, you never really finish.
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The spirit of a man is constructed out of his choices.
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I dream of a love that is more than two people craving to possess one another.
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Religion has everything on its side: revelation, prophecies, government protection, the highest dignity and eminence. . . and more than this, the invaluable prerogative of being allowed to imprint its doctrines on the mind at a tender age of childhood, whereby they become almost innate ideas.
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Perhaps the single most important therapeutic credo that I have is that the unexamined life is not worth living.
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Though the physicality of death destroys us, the idea of death may save us.
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Death, however, does itch. It itches all the time. It is always with us, scratching at some inner door.
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He had learned long ago that, in general, the easier it was for anxious patients to reach him, the less likely they were to call. (107)
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Death anxiety is the mother of all religions, which, in one way or another, attempt to temper the anguish of our finitude.
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Psychotherapy is a cyclical process from isolation into relationship. It is cyclical because the patient, in terror of existential isolation, relates deeply and meaningfully to the therapist and then, strengthened by this encounter, is led back again to a confrontation with existential isolation.
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The act of revealing oneself fully to another and still being accepted may be the major vehicle of therapeutic help.
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If people in their 20s had more death awareness, would that in fact temper their ambition or drive?
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Specialness as a primary mode of death transcendence takes a number of other maladaptive forms.
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Indeed, the evidence supporting the efficacy of group therapy, and the prevailing sentiment of the mental health profession, are sufficiently strong that it would be difficult to defend the adequacy of the inpatient unit that attempted to operate without a small group program.
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Death loses its terror if one dies when one has consummated one’s life!
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Mature love is loving, not being loved.
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The more you fail to experience your life fully, the more you will fear death.
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Only the wounded healer can truly heal. (97)
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As we reach the crest of life and look at the path before us, we apprehend that the path no longer ascends but slopes downward toward decline and diminishment. From that point on, concerns about death are never far from mind.
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A curious thought experiment. . . Nietzsche’s message to us was to live life in such a way that we would be willing to repeat the same life eternally
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One reason patients are reluctant to work in a therapy group is they fear that things will go too far, that the powerful therapist or the collective group might coerce them to lose control–to say or think or feel things that will be catastrophic.
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