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All these things I’ve written so much about. That’s why I’ve made such a practice really, over and over to hammer home the point of self-revelation and being more of yourself and showing yourself. Every book I write I want to get that in there.

Irvin D. Yalom

The path to decision may be hard because it leads into the territory of both finiteness and groundlessness—domains soaked in anxiety.
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Anxiety Both Decision Domain Finiteness Groundlessness Hard Lead Path Soak Territory
The therapist can make the group feel safer by allowing each patient to set his or her limits and by emphasizing the patient’s control over every interaction.
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Allow Each Emphasize Group InterAction Limit Patient Safer Set Therapist
The act of revealing oneself fully to another and still being accepted may be the major vehicle of therapeutic help.
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Accept Accuse Act Another Being Fully Oneself Reveal Therapeutic Vehicle
Never take away anything if you have nothing better to offer
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Anything Away Better never Nothing Offer Take
A free man who lives among the ignorant strives as far as he can to avoid their favors. A free man acts honestly, not deceptively.
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Avoid Deceptively Far Favor Free Genuine Ignorant Man
Mature love is loving, not being loved.
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Being Love Loved Loving Mature
To the best of my knowledge, every acute inpatient ward offers some inpatient group therapy experience.
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Acute Best Every Experience Impatient Knowledge Offer Some Therapy
To love means to be actively concerned for the life and the growth of another.
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Activity Another Concerned Growth Life Love Mena
To the extent that one is responsible for one’s life, one is alone.
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Extent Life Alone One Responsible
Psychotherapy is a cyclical process from isolation into relationship. It is cyclical because the patient, in terror of existential isolation, relates deeply and meaningfully to the therapist and then, strengthened by this encounter, is led back again to a confrontation with existential isolation.
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Critical Isolation Process Psychotherapy Relationship Terror Therapist
The death anxiety of many people is fueled … by disappointment at never having fulfilled their potential.
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Anxiety Death Disappointment Fulfilled Have Many never People Fuel Potential
It is wrong to bear children out of need, wrong to use a child to alleviate loneliness, wrong to provide purpose in life by reproducing another copy of oneself. It is wrong also to seek immortality by spewing one’s germ into the future as though sperm contains your consciousness!
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Alleviate Another Bear Child Children Consciousness Gem Life Loneliness Need Provide Purpose Reproduce Sperm Use Wrong
A curious thought experiment. . . Nietzsche’s message to us was to live life in such a way that we would be willing to repeat the same life eternally
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Country Curious Experiment Life Live Message People Person Repeat Same Such Through Way Willing
I think we ripple on into others, just like a stone puts its ripples into a brook. That, for me, too, is a source of comfort. It kind of, in a sense, negates the sense of total oblivion.
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Brook Comfort Obvious Other Put Ripple Sense Source Stone Think
Though the physicality of death destroys us, the idea of death may save us.
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Death Destroy Idea Physical Save Through
Were not teaching our students the importance of relationships with other people: how you work with them, what the relational pathology consists of, how you examine your own conscience, how you examine the inner world, how you examine your dreams.
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Important Pathology People Relationship Student Teach Work
Living safely is dangerous.
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Dangerous Live Safely
Therapists need to have a long experience in personal therapy to see what it’s like to be on the other side of the couch and see what they find helpful or not helpful. And if possible, get into therapy at different stages of their life with different kinds of therapists just to sample a bit.
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Couch Experience Like Long Need Personal Side Therapist
If I’m among men who don’t agree at all with my nature, I will hardly be able to accommodate myself to them without greatly changing myself.
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Able Accomplish Agree Among Change Great Hardly Men Myself Nature
Religion has everything on its side: revelation, prophecies, government protection, the highest dignity and eminence. . . and more than this, the invaluable prerogative of being allowed to imprint its doctrines on the mind at a tender age of childhood, whereby they become almost innate ideas.
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Dignity Else Emerence Everything Government Highest More Protection Religion Revelation
Perhaps the single most important therapeutic credo that I have is that the unexamined life is not worth living.
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Credo Import Therapeutic Life Living Perhaps Single Unexamined Worth
Only free man are genuinely useful to one another and can form true friendships. And it’s absolutely permissible, by the highest right of Nature, for everyone to employ clear reason to determine how to live in a way that will allow him to flourish.
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Absolute Allow Clear Determine Empty Free Friendship Man Premiseble Way
The pain is there; when you close one door on it, it knocks to come in somewhere else.
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Close Come Door Else Knock One Pain Somewhere
…the more unlived your life, the greater your death anxiety.
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Anxiety Creator Death Life Money Unlive
Some piece of ourselves, not necessarily our consciousness, but some piece of ourselves gets passed on and on and on.
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Consciousness Necessarily Ourselves Pass Pieces Place Some
Heidegger makes the distinction between being absorbed in the way things are in the world and being aware that things are in the world.
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Absorbed Being Distinction Heidegger Make Thing Way World
This was due to a kind of increased existential awareness that resulted from this confrontation with the death of another. And I think it brought them in touch with their own death, so they began to experience a kind of preciousness to life that comes with an experience of its transiency.
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Awareness Began Brought Come Confrontation Death Due Existential Experience Increase Preciousness Think

All these things I’ve written so much about. That’s why I’ve made such a practice really, over and over to hammer home the point of self-revelation and being more of yourself and showing yourself. Every book I write I want to get that in there.

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All these things I’ve written so much about. That’s why I’ve made such a practice really, over and over to hammer home the point of self-revelation and being more of yourself and showing yourself. Every book I write I want to get that in there.

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