Life as a therapist is a life of service in which we daily transcend our personal wishes and turn our gaze toward the needs and growth of the other.
IRVIN D. YALOMThe more you fail to experience your life fully, the more you will fear death.
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Live right, he reminded himself, and have faith that good things will flow from you even if you never learn of them.
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Live your life to the fullest; and then, and only then, die. Don’t leave any unlived life behind.
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Indeed, the evidence supporting the efficacy of group therapy, and the prevailing sentiment of the mental health profession, are sufficiently strong that it would be difficult to defend the adequacy of the inpatient unit that attempted to operate without a small group program.
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My hunch is yes. It would certainly do something for those who are most ruthless, who tend to make others most miserable.
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Life is a miserable thing. I have decided to spend my life thinking about it.
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Look out the other’s window. Try to see the world as your patient sees it.
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To care of another individual means to know and to experience the other as fully as possible.
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Mirroring, softly, barely audibly, just under the membrane of consciousness.
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One comprehends oneself in order not to be preoccupied with oneself.
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There is some evidence, for example, that those who enter the death-related professions (soldiers, doctors, priests, and morticians) may in part be motivated by a need to obtain control over death anxiety.
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If one is to learn to live with the dead, one must first learn to live with the living!
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If we climb high enough, we will reach a height from which tragedy ceases to look tragic.
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Death cures psychoneurosis. In a sense all these neurotic concerns–fear of rejection, interpersonal concerns–seem to melt away, and people get another perspective on their lives. The important things are really important, and the trivia of life is trivialized.
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Perhaps the single most important therapeutic credo that I have is that the unexamined life is not worth living.
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The spirit of a man is constructed out of his choices.
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Every person must choose how much truth he can stand.
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Death loses its terror if one dies when one has consummated one’s life!
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Psychiatry is a strange field because, unlike any other field of medicine, you never really finish.
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The therapist can make the group feel safer by allowing each patient to set his or her limits and by emphasizing the patient’s control over every interaction.
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This was due to a kind of increased existential awareness that resulted from this confrontation with the death of another. And I think it brought them in touch with their own death, so they began to experience a kind of preciousness to life that comes with an experience of its transiency.
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Reality always creeps in–the reality of our helplessness and our mortality; the reality that, despite our reach for the stars, a creaturely fate awaits us.
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The drive for power is not uncommonly motivated by this dynamic. One’s own fear and sense of limitation is avoided by enlarging oneself and one’s sphere of control.
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Death anxiety is the mother of all religions, which, in one way or another, attempt to temper the anguish of our finitude.
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Were not teaching our students the importance of relationships with other people: how you work with them, what the relational pathology consists of, how you examine your own conscience, how you examine the inner world, how you examine your dreams.
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None of my patients are really troubled by the idea that some part of what they say might be in a book in the future.
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Psychotherapy is a cyclical process from isolation into relationship. It is cyclical because the patient, in terror of existential isolation, relates deeply and meaningfully to the therapist and then, strengthened by this encounter, is led back again to a confrontation with existential isolation.
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