“We are not our partner’s therapist, psychologist, teacher, judge. We are their friend, ally, and partner in healing.”

If you have to abandon yourself to make the relationship work, that’s not love.

You can love someone and still make the choice to let them go.

Chasing unavailable people is a sneak way for the ego to avoid intimacy.

Heartbreak can trigger childhood wounds.

Be the kind of person you want to date.

Ultra-independence is a trauma response.

Endings are also beginnings with a destination unknown.

Maturity is willing to acknowledge what you are willing to shift, learn or give to create the kind of relationship you want.

Life isn’t trying to break you down. It’s trying to break you open.

You don’t hold place for everyone’s shit.

You don’t have to be “finished” your healing work before entering into your relationship.

Imagine what you could be doing with all the energy you give away to people who don’t want what you want.

Choose the path that feels lighter.

Power and energy games only exist in a relationship when the ego is at the wheel. When we heal our hearts, we can show up as mature beings in service to love.

Ghosting is an expression of extreme anxiety and fear of intimacy. As much as it hurts to be on the receiving end, please know it was never about you.

Our ability to receive love is a mirror of our own self worth. Until we learn to receive love with an open heart, we’re limited to how deep our relationships can go.

I used to have an imaginary friend named Michael.

I had a friend, who was abused by her dad. I made a vow to myself that I’d never hurt my daughter.

No greater victory can be won by citizens or soldiers than to transform temporary foes into permanent friends.

I make my friends pull up their profiles and I’m like, “Show me everything.”

One time, Niall sat on the floor for hours trying to find a way of putting his M&M’s in alphabetical order.

When i was 12 all of my friends had girlfriends and i didn’t, i felt lonely so i asked my mom to date me.

A good friend of mine was Lucy Ball. Her mother and my mother were best friends.

Love and mercy that’s what you need tonight. Love and mercy to you and your friends tonight.