“If you have to abandon yourself to make the relationship work, that’s not love.”

Chasing unavailable people is self abandonment.

When we heal ourselves, we heal our families. When we heal our families, we heal the world.

It’s not your job to awaken your family.

You can love someone and still make the choice to let them go.

Chasing unavailable people is a sneak way for the ego to avoid intimacy.

Heartbreak can trigger childhood wounds.

Be the kind of person you want to date.

Ultra-independence is a trauma response.

Endings are also beginnings with a destination unknown.

Maturity is willing to acknowledge what you are willing to shift, learn or give to create the kind of relationship you want.

Life isn’t trying to break you down. It’s trying to break you open.

You don’t hold place for everyone’s shit.

You don’t have to be “finished” your healing work before entering into your relationship.

Imagine what you could be doing with all the energy you give away to people who don’t want what you want.

Choose the path that feels lighter.

Power and energy games only exist in a relationship when the ego is at the wheel. When we heal our hearts, we can show up as mature beings in service to love.

There are three ways of learning golf: by study, which is the most wearisome; by imitation, which is the most fallacious; and by experience, which is the most bitter.

The experience of the individual has become the experience of the people, thanks solely to the camera.

If you have time to lean, you have time to clean.

Experience is something you don’t get until just after you need it.

No fear or shame in the dignity of your experience, language, and knowledge.

I don’t know about changing my perspective, because motherhood is such a glorious blessing and I am very thankful for that. It is such a beautiful experience. I so strongly recommend it. It’s bliss, love, and fulfillment of another level.

If I write a book where all I’ve ever experienced is success, people won’t take a positive lesson from it. In being candid, I have to own up to my own failures, both in my marriage and in my work environment.

Nothing speaks like results. If you want to build the kind of credibility that connects with people, then deliver results before you deliver a message. Get out and do what you advise others to do. Communicate from experience.