When people don’t have any curiosity about themselves, that is always a bad sign.
IRVIN D. YALOMOnly the wounded healer can truly heal. (97)
More Irvin D. Yalom Quotes
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Some have expressed the very opposite feeling–the fear that they would not be interesting enough to write about.
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When that person dies, the whole cluster dies,too, vanishes from the living memory. I wonder who that person will be for me. Whose death will make me truly dead?
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When we have forgotten ourselves and become absorbed in someone (or something) outside ourselves
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If one is to learn to live with the dead, one must first learn to live with the living!
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One doesn’t do existential therapy as a freestanding separate theory; rather it informs your approach to such issues as death, which many therapists tend to shy away from.
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The pain is there; when you close one door on it, it knocks to come in somewhere else.
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Absolute power, as we have always known, corrupts absolutely; it corrupts because it does not do the trick for the individual.
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Life is a miserable thing. I have decided to spend my life thinking about it.
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The creative members of an orthodoxy, any orthodoxy, ultimately outgrow their disciplines.
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Never take away anything if you have nothing better to offer
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Death, however, does itch. It itches all the time. It is always with us, scratching at some inner door.
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What? ‘Borderline patients play games’? That what you said? Ernest, you’ll never be a real therapist if you think like that. That’s exactly what I meant earlier when I talked about the dangers of diagnosis.
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A curious thought experiment. . . Nietzsche’s message to us was to live life in such a way that we would be willing to repeat the same life eternally
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We take pleasure not only in the growth of our patient but also in the ripple effect—the salutary influence our patients have upon those whom they touch in life.
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Live right, he reminded himself, and have faith that good things will flow from you even if you never learn of them.
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In a study we did of bereavement, we found that rather impressive numbers of widows and widowers had not simply gone back to their pre-loss functioning, but grown.
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Pandora’s box, but to re-enter life in a richer, more compassionate manner.
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Just as you were about to step on it, I asked you “Do you want to cross the footbridge to me?” – Immediately you did not want to anymore; and when I asked you again you remained silent.
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Hidden in disguise, leaking out in a variety of symptoms. It is the wellspring of many of our worries, stresses, and conflicts.
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Mature love is loving, not being loved.
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Perhaps the single most important therapeutic credo that I have is that the unexamined life is not worth living.
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A free man who lives among the ignorant strives as far as he can to avoid their favors. A free man acts honestly, not deceptively.
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If you want to choose the pleasure of growth, prepare yourself for some pain.
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None of my patients are really troubled by the idea that some part of what they say might be in a book in the future.
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Some day soon, perhaps in forty years, there will be no one alive who has ever known me. That’s when I will be truly dead – when I exist in no one’s memory.
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Look out the other’s window. Try to see the world as your patient sees it.
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