Look out the other’s window. Try to see the world as your patient sees it.
IRVIN D. YALOMAbsolute power, as we have always known, corrupts absolutely; it corrupts because it does not do the trick for the individual.
More Irvin D. Yalom Quotes
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When we have forgotten ourselves and become absorbed in someone (or something) outside ourselves
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All these things I’ve written so much about. That’s why I’ve made such a practice really, over and over to hammer home the point of self-revelation and being more of yourself and showing yourself. Every book I write I want to get that in there.
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To love means to be actively concerned for the life and the growth of another.
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Perhaps the single most important therapeutic credo that I have is that the unexamined life is not worth living.
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Love is not just a passion spark between two people; there is infinite difference between falling in love and standing in love.
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I dream of a love that is more than two people craving to possess one another.
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Hidden in disguise, leaking out in a variety of symptoms. It is the wellspring of many of our worries, stresses, and conflicts.
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I must stop him from being one of those who call themselves good because they have no claws.
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There are borderlines and there are borderlines. Labels do violence to people. You can’t treat the label; you have to treat the person behind the label. (17)
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Therapists need to have a long experience in personal therapy to see what it’s like to be on the other side of the couch and see what they find helpful or not helpful. And if possible, get into therapy at different stages of their life with different kinds of therapists just to sample a bit.
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I never want to take away something when I don’t have anything better to offer him in a way.
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Despair is the price one pays for self-awareness. Look deeply into life, and you’ll always find despair.
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The more you fail to experience your life fully, the more you will fear death.
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If I had to pick out a therapist in a movie that I’d like to go see as a personal therapist, it would be Robin Williams in Goodwill Hunting.
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The drive for power is not uncommonly motivated by this dynamic. One’s own fear and sense of limitation is avoided by enlarging oneself and one’s sphere of control.
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There is some evidence, for example, that those who enter the death-related professions (soldiers, doctors, priests, and morticians) may in part be motivated by a need to obtain control over death anxiety.
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The spirit of a man is constructed out of his choices.
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A curious thought experiment. . . Nietzsche’s message to us was to live life in such a way that we would be willing to repeat the same life eternally
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We take pleasure not only in the growth of our patient but also in the ripple effect—the salutary influence our patients have upon those whom they touch in life.
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To care of another individual means to know and to experience the other as fully as possible.
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I think my quarry is illusion. I war against magic. I believe that, though illusion often cheers and comforts, it ultimately and invariably weakens and constricts the spirit.
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Self-awareness is a supreme gift, a treasure as precious as life.
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Life is a spark between two identical voids, the darkness before birth and the one after death.
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He had learned long ago that, in general, the easier it was for anxious patients to reach him, the less likely they were to call. (107)
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A focus on this deep dissatisfaction is often the starting point in overcoming death anxiety.
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Only the wounded healer can truly heal. (97)
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