Mature love is loving, not being loved.
IRVIN D. YALOMThe creative members of an orthodoxy, any orthodoxy, ultimately outgrow their disciplines.
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Every person must choose how much truth he can stand.
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I don’t let any personal views about religion cause me to want to take away something that’s offering the patient comfort.
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I never want to take away something when I don’t have anything better to offer him in a way.
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In a study we did of bereavement, we found that rather impressive numbers of widows and widowers had not simply gone back to their pre-loss functioning, but grown.
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The therapist can make the group feel safer by allowing each patient to set his or her limits and by emphasizing the patient’s control over every interaction.
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Look out the other’s window. Try to see the world as your patient sees it.
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Death cures psychoneurosis. In a sense all these neurotic concerns–fear of rejection, interpersonal concerns–seem to melt away, and people get another perspective on their lives. The important things are really important, and the trivia of life is trivialized.
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Despite the staunchest, most venerable defenses, we can never completely subdue death anxiety: it is always there, lurking in some hidden ravine of the mind.
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Love is not just a passion spark between two people; there is infinite difference between falling in love and standing in love.
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A sense of life meaning ensues but cannot be deliberately pursued: life meaning is always a derivative phenomenon that materializes when we have transcended ourselves.
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Many people are in despair because their dreams didn’t come true, and they despair even more that they did not make them come true.
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This was due to a kind of increased existential awareness that resulted from this confrontation with the death of another. And I think it brought them in touch with their own death, so they began to experience a kind of preciousness to life that comes with an experience of its transiency.
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Therapists need to have a long experience in personal therapy to see what it’s like to be on the other side of the couch and see what they find helpful or not helpful. And if possible, get into therapy at different stages of their life with different kinds of therapists just to sample a bit.
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A focus on this deep dissatisfaction is often the starting point in overcoming death anxiety.
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The act of revealing oneself fully to another and still being accepted may be the major vehicle of therapeutic help.
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