The spirit of a man is constructed out of his choices.
IRVIN D. YALOMSome have expressed the very opposite feeling–the fear that they would not be interesting enough to write about.
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Many people are in despair because their dreams didn’t come true, and they despair even more that they did not make them come true.
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A sense of life meaning ensues but cannot be deliberately pursued: life meaning is always a derivative phenomenon that materializes when we have transcended ourselves.
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Never take away anything if you have nothing better to offer
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To care of another individual means to know and to experience the other as fully as possible.
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Your greatest instrument is you, yourself, and the work of self-understanding is endless. I’m still learning.
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If I’m among men who don’t agree at all with my nature, I will hardly be able to accommodate myself to them without greatly changing myself.
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One reason patients are reluctant to work in a therapy group is they fear that things will go too far, that the powerful therapist or the collective group might coerce them to lose control–to say or think or feel things that will be catastrophic.
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The therapist can make the group feel safer by allowing each patient to set his or her limits and by emphasizing the patient’s control over every interaction.
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Absolute power, as we have always known, corrupts absolutely; it corrupts because it does not do the trick for the individual.
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One comprehends oneself in order not to be preoccupied with oneself.
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Only free man are genuinely useful to one another and can form true friendships. And it’s absolutely permissible, by the highest right of Nature, for everyone to employ clear reason to determine how to live in a way that will allow him to flourish.
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Marriage and its entourage of possession and jealousy enslave the spirit.
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I never want to take away something when I don’t have anything better to offer him in a way.
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Some day soon, perhaps in forty years, there will be no one alive who has ever known me. That’s when I will be truly dead – when I exist in no one’s memory.
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I must stop him from being one of those who call themselves good because they have no claws.
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Death anxiety is the mother of all religions, which, in one way or another, attempt to temper the anguish of our finitude.
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Some piece of ourselves, not necessarily our consciousness, but some piece of ourselves gets passed on and on and on.
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Life is a miserable thing. I have decided to spend my life thinking about it.
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Rather, love is a way of being, a “giving to,” not a ‘falling for”; a mode of relating at large, not an act limited to a single person.
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Mirroring, softly, barely audibly, just under the membrane of consciousness.
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I thought a lot about how someone very old is the last living individual to have known some person or cluster of people.
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The pain is there; when you close one door on it, it knocks to come in somewhere else.
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Self-awareness is a supreme gift, a treasure as precious as life.
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Pandora’s box, but to re-enter life in a richer, more compassionate manner.
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If we climb high enough, we will reach a height from which tragedy ceases to look tragic.
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Does a being who requires meaning find meaning in a universe that has no meaning?
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