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Irvin D. Yalom

Mirroring, softly, barely audibly, just under the membrane of consciousness.
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Barely Consciousness Just Membrance Mirror Softly Under
There was a time in our lives when we were so close that nothing seemed to obstruct our friendship and brotherhood, and only a small footbridge separated us.
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Brotherhood Close Friendship Live Nothing Obstruct Out Seem Small Time
The therapist can make the group feel safer by allowing each patient to set his or her limits and by emphasizing the patient’s control over every interaction.
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Allow Each Emphasize Group InterAction Limit Patient Safer Set Therapist
If one is to love oneself one must behave in ways that one can admire.
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Admire Behave Love Must One Oneself Way
It’s not easy to live every moment wholly aware of death. It’s like trying to stare the sun in the face: you can stand only so much of it. Because we cannot live frozen in fear, we generate methods to soften death’s terror.
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Aware Death East Every Face Moment Much Not Only Stand Stare Sun Terror Try
When that person dies, the whole cluster dies,too, vanishes from the living memory. I wonder who that person will be for me. Whose death will make me truly dead?
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Cluster Dead Death Living Memory Person Truly Vanish Wonder
One reason patients are reluctant to work in a therapy group is they fear that things will go too far, that the powerful therapist or the collective group might coerce them to lose control–to say or think or feel things that will be catastrophic.
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Far Fear Group Once Patient Powerful Reason Reluctant Therapist Therapy Thing Too Work
A sense of life meaning ensues but cannot be deliberately pursued: life meaning is always a derivative phenomenon that materializes when we have transcended ourselves.
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Always Deliberately Ensure Life Materialize Meaning Ourselves Phenomena Pursue Sense
Death loses its terror if one dies when one has consummated one’s life!
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Consummated Death Die Life Lose One Terror
I think we ripple on into others, just like a stone puts its ripples into a brook. That, for me, too, is a source of comfort. It kind of, in a sense, negates the sense of total oblivion.
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Brook Comfort Obvious Other Put Ripple Sense Source Stone Think
Life as a therapist is a life of service in which we daily transcend our personal wishes and turn our gaze toward the needs and growth of the other.
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Gaze Growth Life Need Personal Service Therapist Towards Transcend Wish
The drive for power is not uncommonly motivated by this dynamic. One’s own fear and sense of limitation is avoided by enlarging oneself and one’s sphere of control.
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Control Drive Enlarge Fear Limitation Motivate Oneself Own Power S[Here
… sooner or later she had to give up the hope for a better past.
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Better Give Hope Later Past Sooner
Does a being who requires meaning find meaning in a universe that has no meaning?
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Being Dose Mean Require Universal
Were not teaching our students the importance of relationships with other people: how you work with them, what the relational pathology consists of, how you examine your own conscience, how you examine the inner world, how you examine your dreams.
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Important Pathology People Relationship Student Teach Work
Specialness as a primary mode of death transcendence takes a number of other maladaptive forms.
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Death Form Mode Number Other Primary Specialties Take Transcendence

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