Once I began to consider everything as being of potential interest, objects released latent layers of value.
ALAIN DE BOTTONIt looks like it’s wasting time, but literature is actually the ultimate time-saver – because it gives us access to a range of emotions and events that it would take you years, decades, millennia to try to experience directly.
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The longing for a destiny is no nowhere stronger than in our romantic life. All too often forced to share our bed with those who cannot fathom our soul, can we not be forgiven if we believe ourselves fated to stumble one day upon the man or woman of our dreams.
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Though it may feel otherwise, enjoying life is no more dangerous than apprehending it with continuous anxiety and gloom.
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The inability to live in the present lies in the fear of leaving the sheltered position of anticipation or memory, and so of admitting that this is the only life that one is ever likely (heavenly intervention aside) to live.
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It’s perhaps easier now than ever before to make a good living; it’s perhaps harder than ever before to stay calm, to be free of career anxiety.
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What kills us isn’t one big thing, but thousands of tiny obligations we can’t turn down for fear of disappointing others.
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Without sex, we would be dangerously invulnerable. We might believe we were not ridiculous. We wouldn’t know rejection and humiliation so intimately.
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One of the best protections against disappointment is to have a lot going on.
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Out of the millions of people we live among, most of whom we habitually ignore and are ignored by in turn, there are always a few that hold hostage our capacity for happiness, whom we could recognize by their smell alone and whom we would rather die than be without.
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Curiosity might be pictured as being made up of chains of small questions extending outwards, sometimes over huge distances, from a central hub composed of a few blunt, large questions.
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One of the better guarantors of ending up in a good relationship: an advanced capacity to be alone.
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The difference between hope and despair is a different way of telling stories from the same facts.
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A notorious inability to express emotions makes human beings the only animals capable of suicide.
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You normally have to be bashed about a bit by life to see the point of daffodils, sunsets and uneventful nice days.
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The materialistic view of happiness of our age starkly revealed in our understanding of the word “luxury.
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When Proust urges us to evaluate the world properly, he repeatedly reminds us of the value of modest scenes.
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The greatest difficulty of Travel is that one is forced to take oneself along.
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The attentions of others matter to us because we are afflicted by a congenital uncertainty as to our own value, as a result of which affliction we tend to allow others’ appraisals to play a determining role in how we see ourselves. Our sense of identity is held captive by the judgements of those we live among.
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Good sex isn’t just fun, it keeps us sane and happy. Having sex with someone makes us feel wanted, alive and potent.
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We need a refuge to shore up our states of mind, because so much of the world is opposed to our allegiances. We need our rooms to align us to desirable versions of ourselves and to keep alive the important, evanescent sides of us.
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The longing for destiny is nowhere stronger than in our romantic life.
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Must being in love always mean being in pain?
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Memory is… similar to anticipation: an instrument of simplification and selection.
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There are selections so acute that they come to define a place, with the result that we can no longer travel through that landscape without being reminded of what a great artist noticed there.
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Journeys are the midwives of thought. Few places are more conducive to internal conversations than moving planes, ships or trains.
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Maturity: knowing where you’re crazy, trying to warn others of the fact and striving to keep yourself under control.
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At the heart of every frustration lies a basic structure: the collision of a wish with an unyielding reality.
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