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Memory is… similar to anticipation: an instrument of simplification and selection.

Alain de Botton

There is always the option of being emotionally lazy, that is, of quoting.
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Always Emotion Lazy Option Quote
Literature deeply stands opposed to the dominant value system-the one that rewards money and power. Writers are on the other side-they make us sympathetic to ideas and feelings that are of deep importance but can’t afford airtime in a commercialized, status-consciou s, and cynical world.
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Act Conscious Cynical Draw Money Object Power World
Insomnia is a glamorous term for thoughts you forgot to have in the day.
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Dance Forgot Glamorous Insomnia Term Thought
We read the weird tales in newspapers to crowd out the even weirder stuff inside us.
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Crowd Inside Newspaper Raed Stuff Tale Weird
What is a snob? A snob is anybody who takes a small part of you and uses that to come to a complete vision of who you are. That is snobbery.
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Anybody Complete Part Small Snob Take Use Vision
If one felt successful, there’d be so little incentive to be successful.
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Felt Incentive Successful
Our responses to the world are crucially moulded by the company we keep, for we temper our curiosity to fit in with the expectations of others.
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Compare Crucial Expectation Keep Mould Other Response Temper World
The finest proof of our loyalty toward one another was our monstrous disloyalties towards everyone else.
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Another Disloyalty Everyone Finest Loyalty Monstrous Proof Toward
The longing for a destiny is no nowhere stronger than in our romantic life. All too often forced to share our bed with those who cannot fathom our soul, can we not be forgiven if we believe ourselves fated to stumble one day upon the man or woman of our dreams.
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Bed Destiny Force Life Long Nowhere Often Ourselves Romantic Share Stronger Stumble
So many complaints boil down to the belly ache of the fragile, mortal, ignored ego in a vast and indifferent universe.
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Ache Belly Complaint Down Ego Fragile Ignore Universe
An argument in a couple: 2 people attempting to introduce each other to important truths – by panicked shouting.
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Argument Attempt Couple Important Introduce Truth
Which seems no less relevant in the secular realm than in the religious one-that we have within us a precious, childlike, vulnerable core which we should nourish and nurture on its turbulent journey through life.
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Childlike Journey Life Nourish Precious Relevant Secular Seem Vulnerable
The happiness that may emerge from taking a second look is central to Proust’s therapeutic conception. It reveals the extent to which our dissatisfactions may be the result of failing to look properly at our lives rather than the result of anything inherently deficient about them.
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Book Central Conception Emerge Happiness Property Reveal
In the oasis complex, the thirsty man images he sees water, palm trees, and shade not because he has evidence for the belief, but because he has a need for it. Desperate needs bring about a hallucination of their solution: thirst hallucinates water.
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Belief Complex Evidence Man Oasis Palm Thirsty Tree Water
It is in dialogue with pain that many beautiful things acquire their value. Acquaintance with grief turns out to be one of the more unusual prerequisites of architectural appreciation. We might, quite aside from all other requirements, need to be a little sad before buildings can properly touch us.
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Acquaintance Acquire Beautiful Dialogue Grief Pain Thing Turn More Value
The activities of drawing, eating and drinking, all involve assimilations by the self of desirable elements from the world, a transfer of goodness from without to within.
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Activity Assimilation Desirable Draw Drink Eat Element Goodness Involve Transfer World
The moment we cry in a film is not when things are sad but when they turn out to be more beautiful than we expected them to be.
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Beautiful Cry Expect Film Moment More Thing
The most attractive are not those who allow us to kiss them at once [we soon feel ungrateful] or those who never allow us to kiss them [we soon forget them], but those who coyly lead us between the two extremes.
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Allow Attractive Most Once Ungrateful
To be shown love is to feel ourselves the object of concern: our presence is noted, our name is registered, our views are listened to, our failings are treated with indulgence and our needs are ministered to. And under such care, we flourish.
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Concern Flourish Listen Love Note Object Ourselves Presence Register Shown View
People only get really interesting when they start to rattle the bars of their cages.
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Bar Cage Interest People Rattle Really Start
It was no longer her absence that wounded me, but my growing indifference to it. Forgetting, however calming, was also a reminder of infidelity to what I had at one time held so dear.
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Absence Calm Forget Grow Identify Indifference Longer Reminder Time Wounded
What kills us isn’t one big thing, but thousands of tiny obligations we can’t turn down for fear of disappointing others.
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Disappoint Kill Obligation Other Thing Thousand
Serious journalists often imagine society is adrift because people don’t know certain things.
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Adrift Certain Imaginem Society Journalist Serius Thing
The attentions of others matter to us because we are afflicted by a congenital uncertainty as to our own value, as a result of which affliction we tend to allow others’ appraisals to play a determining role in how we see ourselves. Our sense of identity is held captive by the judgements of those we live among.
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Affiche Appraisal Attention Congenital Determine Matter People Uncertainty
Writing isn’t a career choice. It’s self-medication that over time precipitates the madness it was meant to ward off.
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Career Choice Education Mad Precipitate Ward Write
Bad art might be defined as a series of bad choices about what to show and what to leave out.
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Bad Choice Define Leave might Out Series Show
The very act of drawing an object, however badly, swiftly takes the drawer from a woolly sense of what the object looks like to a precise awareness of its component parts and particularities.
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Act Draw Drawer Like Look Object Sense Swiftly

Memory is… similar to anticipation: an instrument of simplification and selection.

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