He did not mean to depress us, rather to free us from expectations which inspire bitterness. It is consoling, when love has let us down, to hear that happiness was never part of the plan.
ALAIN DE BOTTONArchitects themselves tend to shy away from the word, preferring instead to talk about the manipulation of space.
More Alain de Botton Quotes
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The only people we can think of as normal are those we don’t yet know very well.
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So many complaints boil down to the belly ache of the fragile, mortal, ignored ego in a vast and indifferent universe.
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In the oasis complex, the thirsty man images he sees water, palm trees, and shade not because he has evidence for the belief, but because he has a need for it. Desperate needs bring about a hallucination of their solution: thirst hallucinates water.
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Unhappiness can stem from having only one perspective to play with.
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Only as we mature does affection begin to depend on achievement.
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It is by finding out what something is not that one comes closest to understanding what it is.
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The difference between hope and despair is a different way of telling stories from the same facts.
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It’s hard loving those who don’t much like themselves: “If you’re so great, why would you think I’m so great.
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There may be significant things to learn about people by looking at what annoys them most.
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At the heart of every frustration lies a basic structure: the collision of a wish with an unyielding reality.
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People who readily accept the need for a gym will resist that their personalities might need some work too.
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The flawless object throws into perspective the mediocrity that surrounds it. We are reminded of the way we would wish things always to be and of how incomplete our lives remain.
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When you look at the Moon, you think, ‘I’m really small. What are my problems?’ It sets things into perspective. We should all look at the Moon a bit more often.
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You have to be quite heavily invested in someone to do them the honour of telling them you’re annoyed with them.
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It looks like it’s wasting time, but literature is actually the ultimate time-saver – because it gives us access to a range of emotions and events that it would take you years, decades, millennia to try to experience directly.
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Only by declaring a book completely finished can one start to see how much remains to be done on it.
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Everyone returns us to a different sense of ourselves, for we become a little of who they think we are.
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Mental health: having enough safe places in your mind for your thoughts to settle.
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Bad art might be defined as a series of bad choices about what to show and what to leave out.
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As victims of hurt, we frequently don’t bring up what ails us, because so many wounds look absurd in the light of day.
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Travel agents would be wiser to ask us what we hope to change about our lives rather than simply where we wish to go.
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I learnt to stop fantasising about the perfect job or the perfect relationship because that can actually be an excuse for not living.
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The longing for destiny is nowhere stronger than in our romantic life.
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Man seems merely dust postponed: the sublime as an encounter – pleasurable, intoxicating, even – with human weakness in the face of strength, age and size of the universe.
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I am in general a very pessimistic person with an optimistic, day to day take on things. The bare facts of life are utterly terrifying. And yet, one can laugh. Indeed, one has to laugh precisely because of the darkness: the nervous laughter of the trenches.
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We may seek a fortune for no greater reason than to secure the respect and attention of people who would otherwise look straight through us.
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