True love is a lack of desire to check one’s smartphone in another’s presence.
ALAIN DE BOTTONRather than employing it as a supplement to active, conscious seeing, they used the medium as a substitute, paying less attention to the world than they had done previously, taking it on faith that photography automatically assured them possession of it.
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Maturity: knowing where you’re crazy, trying to warn others of the fact and striving to keep yourself under control.
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He did not mean to depress us, rather to free us from expectations which inspire bitterness. It is consoling, when love has let us down, to hear that happiness was never part of the plan.
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Writing isn’t a career choice. It’s self-medication that over time precipitates the madness it was meant to ward off.
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To be shown love is to feel ourselves the object of concern: our presence is noted, our name is registered, our views are listened to, our failings are treated with indulgence and our needs are ministered to. And under such care, we flourish.
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Do you love me enough that I may be weak with you? Everyone loves strength, but do you love me for my weakness? That is the real test.
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Intimacy is the capacity to be rather weird with someone – and finding that that’s ok with them.
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We are all more intelligent than we are capable, and awareness of the insanity of love has never saved anyone from the disease.
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The company of certain people may excite our generosity and sensitivity, while that of others awakens our competitiveness and envy.
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Unhappiness can stem from having only one perspective to play with.
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It looks like it’s wasting time, but literature is actually the ultimate time-saver – because it gives us access to a range of emotions and events that it would take you years, decades, millennia to try to experience directly.
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Must being in love always mean being in pain?
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As victims of hurt, we frequently don’t bring up what ails us, because so many wounds look absurd in the light of day.
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I learnt to stop fantasising about the perfect job or the perfect relationship because that can actually be an excuse for not living.
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One of the better guarantors of ending up in a good relationship: an advanced capacity to be alone.
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The arrogance that says analysing the relationship between reasons and causes is more important than writing a philosophy of shyness or sadness or friendship drives me nuts. I can’t accept that.
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