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Maturity: the confidence to have no opinions on many things.

Alain de Botton

Every time we feel satisfied with what we have, we can be counted as rich, however little we may actually possess.
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Every Time Feel Little Possess Rich Satisfy
Our homes do not have to offer us permanent occupancy or store our clothes to merit the name. To speak of home in relation to a building is simply to recognise its harmony with our own prized internal song. Home can be an airport or a library, a garden or a motorway diner.
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Home Merit Name Occupancy Permanent Speak
Writing isn’t a career choice. It’s self-medication that over time precipitates the madness it was meant to ward off.
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Career Choice Education Mad Precipitate Ward Write
Everyone returns us to a different sense of ourselves, for we become a little of who they think we are.
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Different Everyone Ourselves Return Sense Think
What kills us isn’t one big thing, but thousands of tiny obligations we can’t turn down for fear of disappointing others.
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Disappoint Kill Obligation Other Thing Thousand
Rage is caused by a conviction, almost comic in its optimistic origins (however tragic in its effects), that a given frustration has not been written into the contract of life.
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Almost Cause Comic Conviction Frustration Optimistic Origin Rage
Getting to the top has an unfortunate tendency to persuade people that the system is OK after all.
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After All Get OK People System Tendency Top Unfortunate
I am in general a very pessimistic person with an optimistic, day to day take on things. The bare facts of life are utterly terrifying. And yet, one can laugh. Indeed, one has to laugh precisely because of the darkness: the nervous laughter of the trenches.
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Day General Life Optimistic Person Pessimistic Take Terrific Thing
Most victories are, in the best way, acts of revenge.
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Act Best Most Revenge Victory Way
Man seems merely dust postponed: the sublime as an encounter – pleasurable, intoxicating, even – with human weakness in the face of strength, age and size of the universe.
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Encounter Human Intoxicate Man Merely Pleasurable Postpone Seem Sublime Weakness
Anyone who isn’t embarrassed of who they were last year probably isn’t learning enough.
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Anyone Embarrass Enough Larn Last Live Probably
When you look at the Moon, you think, ‘I’m really small. What are my problems?’ It sets things into perspective. We should all look at the Moon a bit more often.
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Look Moon More Often Perspective Problem Really Small Think
What we seek, at the deepest level, is inwardly to resemble, rather than physically to possess, the objects and places that touch us through their beauty.
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Beauty Deep External Inward Object Physical Possess Seek Tell Voice
Envy: a confused, tangled guide to one’s own ambitions.
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Ambition Confuse Envy Tangle
Unnatural to expect that learning to be happy should be any easier than, say, learning to play the violin or require any less practice.
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Easier Except Happy Learn Less Play Practice Require Unnatural Violin
The longing for a destiny is no nowhere stronger than in our romantic life. All too often forced to share our bed with those who cannot fathom our soul, can we not be forgiven if we believe ourselves fated to stumble one day upon the man or woman of our dreams.
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Bed Destiny Force Life Long Nowhere Often Ourselves Romantic Share Stronger Stumble
Being content is perhaps no less easy than playing the violin well: and requires no less practice.
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Content Less Perhaps Play Practice Require Well
Our minds are susceptible to the influence of external voices telling us what we require to be satisfied, voices that may drown out the faint sounds emitted by our souls and distract us from the careful, arduous task of accurately naming our priorities.
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Drown External Influence Mind Require Satisfy Susceptible Tell Voice
Wealth is not an absolute. It is relative to desire. Every time we yearn for something we cannot afford, we grow poorer, whatever our resources. And every time we feel satisfied with what we have, we can be counted as rich, however little we may actually possess.
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Absolute Afford Desire Grow Relative Something Time Wealth
As we write, so we build: to keep a record of what matters to us.
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Built Matter Record Write
We are not always humiliated by failing; we are humiliated only if we first invest our pride and sense of worth in a given achievement and then do not reach it.
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Achievement Always Fall First Humiliate Invest Price Sense Worth
We envy only those whom we feel ourselves to be like; we envy only members of our reference group. There are few successes more unendurable than those of our close friends.
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Close Envy Feel Friend Group Member Ourselves Reference
The need for love hallucinates a prince or princess. The oasis complex is never a complete delusion: the man in the desert does see something on the horizon. It is just that the palms have withered, the well is dry, and the place is infected with locusts.
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Complex Delusion Desert Hallucinate Horizon Need Oasis Prince Princess
What is fascinating about marriage is why anyone wants to get married.
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Anyone Fascinate Marriage Married
Socrates, on being insulted in the marketplace, asked by a passerby, “Don’t you worry about being called names?” retorted, “Why? Do you think I should resent it if an ass had kicked me?
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Ask Being Insult Marketplace Name Passerby Restore
Out of the millions of people we live among, most of whom we habitually ignore and are ignored by in turn, there are always a few that hold hostage our capacity for happiness, whom we could recognize by their smell alone and whom we would rather die than be without.
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Always Among Habitat Ignore Million People Turn
Never too late to learn some embarrassingly basic, stupidly obvious things about oneself.
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Embarrassingly Learn never Oneself Some Stupid Thing

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