To love means to be actively concerned for the life and the growth of another.
IRVIN D. YALOMA sense of life meaning ensues but cannot be deliberately pursued: life meaning is always a derivative phenomenon that materializes when we have transcended ourselves.
More Irvin D. Yalom Quotes
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One thing I feel clear about is that it’s important not to let your life live you. Otherwise, you end up at forty feeling you haven’t really lived. What have I learned? Perhaps to live now, so that at fifty I won’t look back upon my forties with regret.
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I thought a lot about how someone very old is the last living individual to have known some person or cluster of people.
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One doesn’t do existential therapy as a freestanding separate theory; rather it informs your approach to such issues as death, which many therapists tend to shy away from.
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Mature love is loving, not being loved.
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Some piece of ourselves, not necessarily our consciousness, but some piece of ourselves gets passed on and on and on.
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Only the wounded healer can truly heal. (97)
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Life is a miserable thing. I have decided to spend my life thinking about it.
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When that person dies, the whole cluster dies,too, vanishes from the living memory. I wonder who that person will be for me. Whose death will make me truly dead?
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If we climb high enough, we will reach a height from which tragedy ceases to look tragic.
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Only free man are genuinely useful to one another and can form true friendships. And it’s absolutely permissible, by the highest right of Nature, for everyone to employ clear reason to determine how to live in a way that will allow him to flourish.
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If one is to love oneself one must behave in ways that one can admire.
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Specialness as a primary mode of death transcendence takes a number of other maladaptive forms.
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The spirit of a man is constructed out of his choices.
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Despair is the price one pays for self-awareness. Look deeply into life, and you’ll always find despair.
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Death, however, does itch. It itches all the time. It is always with us, scratching at some inner door.
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