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A culture is like an immune system. It operates through the laws of systems, just like a body. If a body has an infection, the immune system deals with it. Similarly, a group enforces its norms, either actively or passively.

Henry Cloud

Dating is a give and take. If you only see it as “Taking,” you are not getting it.
HENRY CLOUD

Date Equality Yourself
I’m not an expert in the sociological realities of all the pastors in the world, but I would say that there are some very, very positive things about the state of integrity in church leaders.
HENRY CLOUD

Anand Thakur
A culture is like an immune system. It operates through the laws of systems, just like a body. If a body has an infection, the immune system deals with it. Similarly, a group enforces its norms, either actively or passively.
HENRY CLOUD

Active Culture Group Immunity Infection System
Confronting an irresponsible person is not painful to him; only consequences are.
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Anand Thakur
Encourage literally came from “in courage.” The courage is put “into” you from outside. Our character and abilities grow through internalizing from others what we do not possess in ourselves.
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Character Courage Encouragement Growth Ourselves Possession
Successful people stick to what they are good at and find ways to make that larger.
HENRY CLOUD

Anand Thakur
There is a difference between solitude and isolation. One is connected and one isn’t. Solitude replenishes, isolation diminishes.
HENRY CLOUD

Anand Thakur
In the end, as a leader, you are always going to get a combination of two things: what you create and what you allow.
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Anand Thakur
The natural response to evaluation is to feel judged. We have to mature to a place where we respond to it with gratitude, and love feedback.
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Anand Thakur
To grow, we need things that we do not have and cannot provide, and we need to have a source of those things who looks favorably upon us and who does things for us for our own good.
HENRY CLOUD

Anand Thakur
You will not grow without attempting to do things you are unable to do.
HENRY CLOUD

Attempt Growth Yourself
Be Hard on the issue, Soft on the person.
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Issues Person Problem Relationship Soft
We have our own thoughts, and if we want others to know them, we must tell them.
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Ourselves Talk Thinking
We all make mistakes, but the people who thrive from their mistakes are the successful ones.
HENRY CLOUD

Anand Thakur
For someone’s character to grow, it has to be free from internal attack. Falling down never stopped children from developing. But getting yelled at, criticized, and put down can stop them for life.
HENRY CLOUD

Character Children Criticism Freedom Growth Life Stop
Anger is frustration at the fact that we are not God, and do not have control over reality.
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Angry Control Fact Frustration Ourselves Reality
There’s no better way to become a disintegrated character than to be your own authority.
HENRY CLOUD

Anand Thakur
Because dating is a human exercise, it can be a tightrope fraught with danger. You will be dating imperfect people, and some of them are more imperfect than others. In addition, you are not perfect either, so that complicates the picture.
HENRY CLOUD

Anand Thakur
To rescue people from the natural consequences of their behavior is to render them powerless.
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Consequence Natural People Power Rescue
Values are sometimes worth living and dying for, and are certainly worth dating and breaking up over.
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Break Up Date Value Worth
If you are building a culture where honest expectations are communicated and peer accountability is the norm, then the group will address poor performance and attitudes.
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Attitude Build Communication Culture Expectation Honesty Performance
The human heart will seek to be known, understood, and connected with above all else. If you do not connect, the ones you care about will find someone who will.
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Connection Finding Heart Human Known Seek Willing
A person who hasn’t grieved a significant loss has unfinished business inside and can cause others great grief as a result.
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Business Grief Person Result
Dating is a place to practice how to relate to other people.
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Date People Place Practice
The extent to which two people in a relationship can bring up and resolve issues is a critical marker of the soundness of a relationship.
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Criticism Issues People Relationship Sound
In a very real way, ownership is the essence of leadership. When you are ridiculously in charge, then you own whatever happens in a company, school.
HENRY CLOUD

Company Essence Leadership Reality School Way
People tend to look at dating sort of like a safari – like they’re trying to land the trophy.
HENRY CLOUD

Award Date People Perspective Relationship

A culture is like an immune system. It operates through the laws of systems, just like a body. If a body has an infection, the immune system deals with it. Similarly, a group enforces its norms, either actively or passively.

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A culture is like an immune system. It operates through the laws of systems, just like a body. If a body has an infection, the immune system deals with it. Similarly, a group enforces its norms, either actively or passively.

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