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The amount of truth a relationship can handle is proportional to the amount of perceived love that’s present.

Henry Cloud

Spouses in healthy relationships cherish each other’s space and are champions of each other’s causes.
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Champion Each Other Health Partner Relationship
A good test of a relationship is how a person responds to the word ‘no.’ Love respects ‘no,’ control does not.
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Control Goodness Person Reaction Relationship Respond Test
Leave your pride, ego, and narcissism somewhere else. Reactions from those parts of you will reinforce your children’s most primitive fears.
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Children Fear Leave Pride Reaction Yourself
When leaders lead in ways that people’s brains can follow, good results follow as well.
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Brain Follow Leadership People Result Well
We all make mistakes, but the people who thrive from their mistakes are the successful ones.
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Anand Thakur
Encourage literally came from “in courage.” The courage is put “into” you from outside. Our character and abilities grow through internalizing from others what we do not possess in ourselves.
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Character Courage Encouragement Growth Ourselves Possession
Everything has seasons, and we have to be able to recognize when something’s time has passed and be able to move into the next season. Everything that is alive requires pruning as well, which is a great metaphor for endings.
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Greatness Metaphor Passion Recognition Season Time
Marriage is not slavery. It is based on a love relationship deeply rooted in freedom. Each partner is free from the other and therefore free to love the other. Where there is control, or perception of control, there is not love. Love only exists where there is freedom.
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Control Freedom Love Marriage Partner Relationship Slave
You have to be able to face losing some things you might want in order to be free to do the right thing.
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Face Freedom Lose Order Right
One of the worst things you can die with is potential.
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Death Oneself Potential Worst
Some goals are not going to fulfill you. Choose goals that you value and care about.
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Values are sometimes worth living and dying for, and are certainly worth dating and breaking up over.
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Break Up Date Value Worth
Dating is primarily a numbers game. People usually go through a lot of people to find good relationships. That’s just the way it is.
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Date People Relationship Way
If your boundary training consists only of words, you are wasting your breath. But if you ‘do’ boundaries with your kids, they internalize the experiences, remember them, digest them, and make them part of how they see reality.
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Boundary Breathe Experience Reality Remember Training Yourself
In the end, as a leader, you are always going to get a combination of two things: what you create and what you allow.
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Endings are a part of life, and we are actually wired to execute them. But because of trauma, developmental failures, and other reasons, we shy away from the steps that could open up whole new worlds of development and growth.
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We need rest not just so we feel better. We need rest for actual creation of what we’re going to need the next day.
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Better Creation Day Feeling Need
The human heart will seek to be known, understood, and connected with above all else. If you do not connect, the ones you care about will find someone who will.
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Connection Finding Heart Human Known Seek Willing
In a very real way, ownership is the essence of leadership. When you are ridiculously in charge, then you own whatever happens in a company, school.
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Company Essence Leadership Reality School Way
Dating should be a part of your life, not your life a part of dating. There is more to life than finding a date.
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Date Finding Life
The extent to which two people in a relationship can bring up and resolve issues is a critical marker of the soundness of a relationship.
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Criticism Issues People Relationship Sound
The natural response to evaluation is to feel judged. We have to mature to a place where we respond to it with gratitude, and love feedback.
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To rescue people from the natural consequences of their behavior is to render them powerless.
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Consequence Natural People Power Rescue
Dating is a place to practice how to relate to other people.
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Date People Place Practice
Whatever’s happening today, remember it is only ONE SCENE in a long movie. Don’t treat it like it’s the whole story. Keep writing the story.
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Anand Thakur
True intimacy is only build around the freedom to disagree.
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Built Disagree Freedom Intimacy True
There’s no better way to become a disintegrated character than to be your own authority.
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Anand Thakur

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