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We need rest not just so we feel better. We need rest for actual creation of what we’re going to need the next day.

Henry Cloud

If you are building a culture where honest expectations are communicated and peer accountability is the norm, then the group will address poor performance and attitudes.
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Attitude Build Communication Culture Expectation Honesty Performance
Dont use all-or-nothing thinking. Take each day as its own day, and dont worry about it if you mess up one day. The most important thing you can do is just get back up on the horse.
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Day Horse Important Mess Thinking
A person who hasn’t grieved a significant loss has unfinished business inside and can cause others great grief as a result.
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Business Grief Person Result
True intimacy is only build around the freedom to disagree.
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Built Disagree Freedom Intimacy True
For someone’s character to grow, it has to be free from internal attack. Falling down never stopped children from developing. But getting yelled at, criticized, and put down can stop them for life.
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Character Children Criticism Freedom Growth Life Stop
Because dating is a human exercise, it can be a tightrope fraught with danger. You will be dating imperfect people, and some of them are more imperfect than others. In addition, you are not perfect either, so that complicates the picture.
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To grow, we need things that we do not have and cannot provide, and we need to have a source of those things who looks favorably upon us and who does things for us for our own good.
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The natural response to evaluation is to feel judged. We have to mature to a place where we respond to it with gratitude, and love feedback.
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Dating should be a part of your life, not your life a part of dating. There is more to life than finding a date.
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Date Finding Life
Faith goes beyond reason. It goes beyond what you can see. But it is as real as anything you can touch or feel.
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Beyond Faith Feeling Reason Touch
A good test of a relationship is how a person responds to the word ‘no.’ Love respects ‘no,’ control does not.
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Control Goodness Person Reaction Relationship Respond Test
Leadership is not taken, it is given. People give leadership to those that they trust. They allow people that they trust to have influence over their lives.
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We all make mistakes, but the people who thrive from their mistakes are the successful ones.
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There’s no better way to become a disintegrated character than to be your own authority.
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Everything has seasons, and we have to be able to recognize when something’s time has passed and be able to move into the next season. Everything that is alive requires pruning as well, which is a great metaphor for endings.
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Greatness Metaphor Passion Recognition Season Time
One of the worst things you can die with is potential.
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Death Oneself Potential Worst
To get greater than 100% return on a growth step, give up defensiveness. Defensiveness stifles performance, and destroys relationships.
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Destroy Greatness Performance Relationship Return
The physicality of a real relationship – one that encompasses mind, body and soul – ultimately makes it more fulfilling and powerful than any virtual relationship ever could be.
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Fulfill Power Reality Relationship Virtual
Endings are a part of life, and we are actually wired to execute them. But because of trauma, developmental failures, and other reasons, we shy away from the steps that could open up whole new worlds of development and growth.
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If your boundary training consists only of words, you are wasting your breath. But if you ‘do’ boundaries with your kids, they internalize the experiences, remember them, digest them, and make them part of how they see reality.
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Boundary Breathe Experience Reality Remember Training Yourself
Anger is frustration at the fact that we are not God, and do not have control over reality.
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Angry Control Fact Frustration Ourselves Reality
People tend to look at dating sort of like a safari – like they’re trying to land the trophy.
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Award Date People Perspective Relationship
To rescue people from the natural consequences of their behavior is to render them powerless.
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Consequence Natural People Power Rescue
Good pain is pain in the service of a purpose. Bad pain is pain endured because we are resisting a needed growth step.
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Endurance Goodness Growth Pain Resistance
Love can only exist where freedom and responsibility are operating.
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Existence Freedom Love Operation Responsibility
A leader’s responsibility is to cause a vision and mission to have tangible results in the real world.
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You have to be able to face losing some things you might want in order to be free to do the right thing.
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Face Freedom Lose Order Right

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