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The extent to which two people in a relationship can bring up and resolve issues is a critical marker of the soundness of a relationship.

Henry Cloud

We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.
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Behavior Change Motivational Ourselves Pain
Everything has seasons, and we have to be able to recognize when something’s time has passed and be able to move into the next season. Everything that is alive requires pruning as well, which is a great metaphor for endings.
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Greatness Metaphor Passion Recognition Season Time
You will not grow without attempting to do things you are unable to do.
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Attempt Growth Yourself
Successful people stick to what they are good at and find ways to make that larger.
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It is true that you get what you tolerate.
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Tolerate True Yourself
Leave your pride, ego, and narcissism somewhere else. Reactions from those parts of you will reinforce your children’s most primitive fears.
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Children Fear Leave Pride Reaction Yourself
The fool tries to adjust the truth so he does not have to adjust to it.
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Adjust Fools Himself Truth
Be Hard on the issue, Soft on the person.
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Issues Person Problem Relationship Soft
There is a difference between solitude and isolation. One is connected and one isn’t. Solitude replenishes, isolation diminishes.
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Who a person is will ultimately determine if their brains, talents, competencies, energy, effort, deal-making abilities, and opportunities will succeed.
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The sad thing is that many of us come to Christ because we are sinners, and then spend the rest of our lives trying to pretend that we are not!
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Live Ourselves Pretend Sadness Sin
One of the worst things you can die with is potential.
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Death Oneself Potential Worst
True intimacy is only build around the freedom to disagree.
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Built Disagree Freedom Intimacy True
Dating is about finding out who you are and who others are. If you show up in a masquerade outfit, neither is going to happen.
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Date Discover Finding Yourself
If you are building a culture where honest expectations are communicated and peer accountability is the norm, then the group will address poor performance and attitudes.
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Attitude Build Communication Culture Expectation Honesty Performance
Anger is frustration at the fact that we are not God, and do not have control over reality.
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Angry Control Fact Frustration Ourselves Reality
A culture is like an immune system. It operates through the laws of systems, just like a body. If a body has an infection, the immune system deals with it. Similarly, a group enforces its norms, either actively or passively.
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Active Culture Group Immunity Infection System
Dating is a give and take. If you only see it as “Taking,” you are not getting it.
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Date Equality Yourself
The natural response to evaluation is to feel judged. We have to mature to a place where we respond to it with gratitude, and love feedback.
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If you want to become healthy, you have to surround yourself with a group of people that are getting healthy and you have to be connected to a community that is doing what you want to do.
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Community Group Health People Surround Yourself
In a very real way, ownership is the essence of leadership. When you are ridiculously in charge, then you own whatever happens in a company, school.
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Company Essence Leadership Reality School Way
Because dating is a human exercise, it can be a tightrope fraught with danger. You will be dating imperfect people, and some of them are more imperfect than others. In addition, you are not perfect either, so that complicates the picture.
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Faith goes beyond reason. It goes beyond what you can see. But it is as real as anything you can touch or feel.
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Beyond Faith Feeling Reason Touch
We have our own thoughts, and if we want others to know them, we must tell them.
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Ourselves Talk Thinking
Confronting an irresponsible person is not painful to him; only consequences are.
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Boundaries are basically about providing structure, and structure is essential in building anything that thrives.
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Boundary Essential Structure Thrive
To grow, we need things that we do not have and cannot provide, and we need to have a source of those things who looks favorably upon us and who does things for us for our own good.
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Anand Thakur

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