“To grow, we need things that we do not have and cannot provide, and we need to have a source of those things who looks favorably upon us and who does things for us for our own good.”

Boundaries are basically about providing structure, and structure is essential in building anything that thrives.

Christianity is not about morality. It’s about reality.

Spouses in healthy relationships cherish each other’s space and are champions of each other’s causes.

Dating is a give and take. If you only see it as “Taking,” you are not getting it.

Being right can never compete with doing well.

People tend to look at dating sort of like a safari – like they’re trying to land the trophy.

Be Hard on the issue, Soft on the person.

A good test of a relationship is how a person responds to the word ‘no.’ Love respects ‘no,’ control does not.

If you are building a culture where honest expectations are communicated and peer accountability is the norm, then the group will address poor performance and attitudes.

Good pain is pain in the service of a purpose. Bad pain is pain endured because we are resisting a needed growth step.

When you encourage someone, it literally changes their brain chemistry to be able to perform, sends fuel to the brain.

To rescue people from the natural consequences of their behavior is to render them powerless.

When truth presents itself, the wise person see the light, takes it in, and makes adjustments. The fool tries to adjust the truth so he does not have to adjust to it.

Leave your pride, ego, and narcissism somewhere else. Reactions from those parts of you will reinforce your children’s most primitive fears.

One of the worst things you can die with is potential.

Love can only exist where freedom and responsibility are operating.