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Dating is a give and take. If you only see it as “Taking,” you are not getting it.

Henry Cloud

Values are sometimes worth living and dying for, and are certainly worth dating and breaking up over.
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Break Up Date Value Worth
Leadership is not taken, it is given. People give leadership to those that they trust. They allow people that they trust to have influence over their lives.
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Some goals are not going to fulfill you. Choose goals that you value and care about.
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If you are building a culture where honest expectations are communicated and peer accountability is the norm, then the group will address poor performance and attitudes.
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Attitude Build Communication Culture Expectation Honesty Performance
Boundaries are basically about providing structure, and structure is essential in building anything that thrives.
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Boundary Essential Structure Thrive
Dont use all-or-nothing thinking. Take each day as its own day, and dont worry about it if you mess up one day. The most important thing you can do is just get back up on the horse.
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Day Horse Important Mess Thinking
Be Hard on the issue, Soft on the person.
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Issues Person Problem Relationship Soft
In a very real way, ownership is the essence of leadership. When you are ridiculously in charge, then you own whatever happens in a company, school.
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Company Essence Leadership Reality School Way
One of the worst things you can die with is potential.
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Death Oneself Potential Worst
There’s no better way to become a disintegrated character than to be your own authority.
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Dating is about finding out who you are and who others are. If you show up in a masquerade outfit, neither is going to happen.
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Date Discover Finding Yourself
Just as we leave the effects of our work behind in results, we leave the effects of our interactions with people in their hearts, minds, and souls.
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I’m not an expert in the sociological realities of all the pastors in the world, but I would say that there are some very, very positive things about the state of integrity in church leaders.
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A person who hasn’t grieved a significant loss has unfinished business inside and can cause others great grief as a result.
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Business Grief Person Result
The amount of truth a relationship can handle is proportional to the amount of perceived love that’s present.
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Amount Love Present Relationship Truth
Love can only exist where freedom and responsibility are operating.
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Existence Freedom Love Operation Responsibility
Successful people stick to what they are good at and find ways to make that larger.
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True intimacy is only build around the freedom to disagree.
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Built Disagree Freedom Intimacy True
When you encourage someone, it literally changes their brain chemistry to be able to perform, sends fuel to the brain.
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Brain Change Encourage Performance Yourself
Spouses in healthy relationships cherish each other’s space and are champions of each other’s causes.
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Champion Each Other Health Partner Relationship
The mature person meets the demands of life, while the immature person demands that life meet her demands.
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Demand Life Mature Person
Marriage is not slavery. It is based on a love relationship deeply rooted in freedom. Each partner is free from the other and therefore free to love the other. Where there is control, or perception of control, there is not love. Love only exists where there is freedom.
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Control Freedom Love Marriage Partner Relationship Slave
Everything has seasons, and we have to be able to recognize when something’s time has passed and be able to move into the next season. Everything that is alive requires pruning as well, which is a great metaphor for endings.
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Greatness Metaphor Passion Recognition Season Time
For someone’s character to grow, it has to be free from internal attack. Falling down never stopped children from developing. But getting yelled at, criticized, and put down can stop them for life.
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Character Children Criticism Freedom Growth Life Stop
When leaders lead in ways that people’s brains can follow, good results follow as well.
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Brain Follow Leadership People Result Well
The extent to which two people in a relationship can bring up and resolve issues is a critical marker of the soundness of a relationship.
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Criticism Issues People Relationship Sound
We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.
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Behavior Change Motivational Ourselves Pain

Dating is a give and take. If you only see it as “Taking,” you are not getting it.

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