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You will not grow without attempting to do things you are unable to do.

Henry Cloud

Marriage is not slavery. It is based on a love relationship deeply rooted in freedom. Each partner is free from the other and therefore free to love the other. Where there is control, or perception of control, there is not love. Love only exists where there is freedom.
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Control Freedom Love Marriage Partner Relationship Slave
Leadership is not taken, it is given. People give leadership to those that they trust. They allow people that they trust to have influence over their lives.
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The fool tries to adjust the truth so he does not have to adjust to it.
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Adjust Fools Himself Truth
Dating is a place to practice how to relate to other people.
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Date People Place Practice
To grow, we need things that we do not have and cannot provide, and we need to have a source of those things who looks favorably upon us and who does things for us for our own good.
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We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.
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Behavior Change Motivational Ourselves Pain
You will not grow without attempting to do things you are unable to do.
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Attempt Growth Yourself
Dating is primarily a numbers game. People usually go through a lot of people to find good relationships. That’s just the way it is.
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Date People Relationship Way
Independence is not an option for us. Remember, God existed without us.
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To get greater than 100% return on a growth step, give up defensiveness. Defensiveness stifles performance, and destroys relationships.
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Destroy Greatness Performance Relationship Return
A leader’s responsibility is to cause a vision and mission to have tangible results in the real world.
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There’s no better way to become a disintegrated character than to be your own authority.
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Endings are a part of life, and we are actually wired to execute them. But because of trauma, developmental failures, and other reasons, we shy away from the steps that could open up whole new worlds of development and growth.
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Good pain is pain in the service of a purpose. Bad pain is pain endured because we are resisting a needed growth step.
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Endurance Goodness Growth Pain Resistance
Confronting an irresponsible person is not painful to him; only consequences are.
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We need rest not just so we feel better. We need rest for actual creation of what we’re going to need the next day.
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Better Creation Day Feeling Need
There is a difference between solitude and isolation. One is connected and one isn’t. Solitude replenishes, isolation diminishes.
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One of the worst things you can die with is potential.
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Death Oneself Potential Worst
The natural response to evaluation is to feel judged. We have to mature to a place where we respond to it with gratitude, and love feedback.
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We have our own thoughts, and if we want others to know them, we must tell them.
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Ourselves Talk Thinking
The business of church is ultimately people. You’re trying to heal people, grow people, teach people, and mend people. And when leaders spend all of their time helping and growing other people, they ignore their own growth.
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When leaders lead in ways that people’s brains can follow, good results follow as well.
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Brain Follow Leadership People Result Well
Encourage literally came from “in courage.” The courage is put “into” you from outside. Our character and abilities grow through internalizing from others what we do not possess in ourselves.
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Character Courage Encouragement Growth Ourselves Possession
The sad thing is that many of us come to Christ because we are sinners, and then spend the rest of our lives trying to pretend that we are not!
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Live Ourselves Pretend Sadness Sin
Everything has seasons, and we have to be able to recognize when something’s time has passed and be able to move into the next season. Everything that is alive requires pruning as well, which is a great metaphor for endings.
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Greatness Metaphor Passion Recognition Season Time
The physicality of a real relationship – one that encompasses mind, body and soul – ultimately makes it more fulfilling and powerful than any virtual relationship ever could be.
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Fulfill Power Reality Relationship Virtual
Things don’t change in a marriage until the spouse who is taking responsibility for a problem that is not hers decides to say or do something about it.
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Change Decision Marriage Responsibility

You will not grow without attempting to do things you are unable to do.

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