“You aren’t alive if you aren’t in need.”

Dating is about finding out who you are and who others are. If you show up in a masquerade outfit, neither is going to happen.

Dont use all-or-nothing thinking. Take each day as its own day, and dont worry about it if you mess up one day. The most important thing you can do is just get back up on the horse.

Everything has seasons, and we have to be able to recognize when something’s time has passed and be able to move into the next season. Everything that is alive requires pruning as well, which is a great metaphor for endings.

Dating is a place to practice how to relate to other people.

When leaders lead in ways that people’s brains can follow, good results follow as well.

Boundaries are basically about providing structure, and structure is essential in building anything that thrives.

Christianity is not about morality. It’s about reality.

Spouses in healthy relationships cherish each other’s space and are champions of each other’s causes.

Dating is a give and take. If you only see it as “Taking,” you are not getting it.

Being right can never compete with doing well.

People tend to look at dating sort of like a safari – like they’re trying to land the trophy.

Be Hard on the issue, Soft on the person.

A good test of a relationship is how a person responds to the word ‘no.’ Love respects ‘no,’ control does not.

If you are building a culture where honest expectations are communicated and peer accountability is the norm, then the group will address poor performance and attitudes.

Good pain is pain in the service of a purpose. Bad pain is pain endured because we are resisting a needed growth step.

When you encourage someone, it literally changes their brain chemistry to be able to perform, sends fuel to the brain.

If it weren’t for the smell of death clinging to the walls, you might think it was your family’s turn to host the month neighborhood potluck supper.

The primary goal of spiritual life is human transformation.

Not that anyone minds–no one’s paying attention to the music.

It is better to write of laughter than of tears, for laughter is the property of man.

Forget about color or race or gender or whatever, he’s got his heart in the right place.

The bad gives rise to the good, the good inspires the better, the better produces the excellent, the excellent is followed by the bizarre

God may not guide us in an obvious way because he wants us to make decisions based on faith and character.

We are becoming who we will be-forever.