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Leave your pride, ego, and narcissism somewhere else. Reactions from those parts of you will reinforce your children’s most primitive fears.

Henry Cloud

Dating is about finding out who you are and who others are. If you show up in a masquerade outfit, neither is going to happen.
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Date Discover Finding Yourself
It is true that you get what you tolerate.
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Tolerate True Yourself
The business of church is ultimately people. You’re trying to heal people, grow people, teach people, and mend people. And when leaders spend all of their time helping and growing other people, they ignore their own growth.
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I’m not an expert in the sociological realities of all the pastors in the world, but I would say that there are some very, very positive things about the state of integrity in church leaders.
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Be Hard on the issue, Soft on the person.
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Issues Person Problem Relationship Soft
Endings are a part of life, and we are actually wired to execute them. But because of trauma, developmental failures, and other reasons, we shy away from the steps that could open up whole new worlds of development and growth.
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We have our own thoughts, and if we want others to know them, we must tell them.
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Ourselves Talk Thinking
Love can only exist where freedom and responsibility are operating.
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Existence Freedom Love Operation Responsibility
We need rest not just so we feel better. We need rest for actual creation of what we’re going to need the next day.
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Better Creation Day Feeling Need
Whatever’s happening today, remember it is only ONE SCENE in a long movie. Don’t treat it like it’s the whole story. Keep writing the story.
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A person who hasn’t grieved a significant loss has unfinished business inside and can cause others great grief as a result.
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Business Grief Person Result
A good test of a relationship is how a person responds to the word ‘no.’ Love respects ‘no,’ control does not.
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Control Goodness Person Reaction Relationship Respond Test
Successful people stick to what they are good at and find ways to make that larger.
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The sad thing is that many of us come to Christ because we are sinners, and then spend the rest of our lives trying to pretend that we are not!
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Live Ourselves Pretend Sadness Sin
Things don’t change in a marriage until the spouse who is taking responsibility for a problem that is not hers decides to say or do something about it.
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Change Decision Marriage Responsibility
The mature person meets the demands of life, while the immature person demands that life meet her demands.
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Demand Life Mature Person
Couples often live out years of falsehood trying to protect and save a relationship, all the while destroying any chance of real relationship.
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Chance Couple Destroy Fake Live Reality Relationship
If people are really narcissistic or have a need to be seen as more than they really are, or to be admired as having it all together, then they cannot be followed and trusted by others.
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Follow Narcissism People Togetherness Trust
Dating is a place to practice how to relate to other people.
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Date People Place Practice
Boundaries are basically about providing structure, and structure is essential in building anything that thrives.
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Boundary Essential Structure Thrive
If you want to become healthy, you have to surround yourself with a group of people that are getting healthy and you have to be connected to a community that is doing what you want to do.
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Community Group Health People Surround Yourself
Confronting an irresponsible person is not painful to him; only consequences are.
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Spouses in healthy relationships cherish each other’s space and are champions of each other’s causes.
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Champion Each Other Health Partner Relationship
Dont use all-or-nothing thinking. Take each day as its own day, and dont worry about it if you mess up one day. The most important thing you can do is just get back up on the horse.
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Day Horse Important Mess Thinking
When you encourage someone, it literally changes their brain chemistry to be able to perform, sends fuel to the brain.
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Brain Change Encourage Performance Yourself
Being right can never compete with doing well.
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Complete Right
The natural response to evaluation is to feel judged. We have to mature to a place where we respond to it with gratitude, and love feedback.
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Leave your pride, ego, and narcissism somewhere else. Reactions from those parts of you will reinforce your children’s most primitive fears.

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Leave your pride, ego, and narcissism somewhere else. Reactions from those parts of you will reinforce your children’s most primitive fears.

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