“The business of church is ultimately people. You’re trying to heal people, grow people, teach people, and mend people. And when leaders spend all of their time helping and growing other people, they ignore their own growth.”

Anger is frustration at the fact that we are not God, and do not have control over reality.

It is true that you get what you tolerate.

The extent to which two people in a relationship can bring up and resolve issues is a critical marker of the soundness of a relationship.

A person who hasn’t grieved a significant loss has unfinished business inside and can cause others great grief as a result.

The fool tries to adjust the truth so he does not have to adjust to it.

Dating should be a part of your life, not your life a part of dating. There is more to life than finding a date.

A culture is like an immune system. It operates through the laws of systems, just like a body. If a body has an infection, the immune system deals with it. Similarly, a group enforces its norms, either actively or passively.

The sad thing is that many of us come to Christ because we are sinners, and then spend the rest of our lives trying to pretend that we are not!

Dating is about finding out who you are and who others are. If you show up in a masquerade outfit, neither is going to happen.

Dont use all-or-nothing thinking. Take each day as its own day, and dont worry about it if you mess up one day. The most important thing you can do is just get back up on the horse.

Everything has seasons, and we have to be able to recognize when something’s time has passed and be able to move into the next season. Everything that is alive requires pruning as well, which is a great metaphor for endings.

Dating is a place to practice how to relate to other people.

When leaders lead in ways that people’s brains can follow, good results follow as well.

Boundaries are basically about providing structure, and structure is essential in building anything that thrives.

Christianity is not about morality. It’s about reality.

Spouses in healthy relationships cherish each other’s space and are champions of each other’s causes.

I just find it hard to believe that anyone would stop me to share how much they loved something that I was a part of.

There is no place in nature for extinction.

Your piping-hot lie is the best of lies.

In the midst of the fountain of wit there arises something bitter, which stings in the very flowers.

Wisdom is not attained by years, but by ability

From the midst of the very fountain of pleasure, something of bitterness arises to vex us in the flower of enjoyment.

Reality is a sound, you have to tune in to it not just keep yelling.

As citizens of this democracy, you are the rulers and the ruled