“Because dating is a human exercise, it can be a tightrope fraught with danger. You will be dating imperfect people, and some of them are more imperfect than others. In addition, you are not perfect either, so that complicates the picture.”

Dont use all-or-nothing thinking. Take each day as its own day, and dont worry about it if you mess up one day. The most important thing you can do is just get back up on the horse.

Everything has seasons, and we have to be able to recognize when something’s time has passed and be able to move into the next season. Everything that is alive requires pruning as well, which is a great metaphor for endings.

Dating is a place to practice how to relate to other people.

When leaders lead in ways that people’s brains can follow, good results follow as well.

Boundaries are basically about providing structure, and structure is essential in building anything that thrives.

Christianity is not about morality. It’s about reality.

Spouses in healthy relationships cherish each other’s space and are champions of each other’s causes.

Dating is a give and take. If you only see it as “Taking,” you are not getting it.

Being right can never compete with doing well.

People tend to look at dating sort of like a safari – like they’re trying to land the trophy.

Be Hard on the issue, Soft on the person.

A good test of a relationship is how a person responds to the word ‘no.’ Love respects ‘no,’ control does not.

If you are building a culture where honest expectations are communicated and peer accountability is the norm, then the group will address poor performance and attitudes.

Good pain is pain in the service of a purpose. Bad pain is pain endured because we are resisting a needed growth step.

When you encourage someone, it literally changes their brain chemistry to be able to perform, sends fuel to the brain.

To rescue people from the natural consequences of their behavior is to render them powerless.