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We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.

Henry Cloud

The opposite of bad is not good.The opposite of bad is love
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If people are really narcissistic or have a need to be seen as more than they really are, or to be admired as having it all together, then they cannot be followed and trusted by others.
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Follow Narcissism People Togetherness Trust
The mature person meets the demands of life, while the immature person demands that life meet her demands.
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Demand Life Mature Person
The business of church is ultimately people. You’re trying to heal people, grow people, teach people, and mend people. And when leaders spend all of their time helping and growing other people, they ignore their own growth.
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In a very real way, ownership is the essence of leadership. When you are ridiculously in charge, then you own whatever happens in a company, school.
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Company Essence Leadership Reality School Way
Be Hard on the issue, Soft on the person.
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Issues Person Problem Relationship Soft
We need rest not just so we feel better. We need rest for actual creation of what we’re going to need the next day.
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Better Creation Day Feeling Need
You aren’t alive if you aren’t in need.
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You will not grow without attempting to do things you are unable to do.
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Attempt Growth Yourself
Everything has seasons, and we have to be able to recognize when something’s time has passed and be able to move into the next season. Everything that is alive requires pruning as well, which is a great metaphor for endings.
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Greatness Metaphor Passion Recognition Season Time
Values are sometimes worth living and dying for, and are certainly worth dating and breaking up over.
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Break Up Date Value Worth
There’s no better way to become a disintegrated character than to be your own authority.
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Dating is about finding out who you are and who others are. If you show up in a masquerade outfit, neither is going to happen.
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Date Discover Finding Yourself
Encourage literally came from “in courage.” The courage is put “into” you from outside. Our character and abilities grow through internalizing from others what we do not possess in ourselves.
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Character Courage Encouragement Growth Ourselves Possession
Dating is a give and take. If you only see it as “Taking,” you are not getting it.
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Date Equality Yourself
Faith goes beyond reason. It goes beyond what you can see. But it is as real as anything you can touch or feel.
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Beyond Faith Feeling Reason Touch
Dating is primarily a numbers game. People usually go through a lot of people to find good relationships. That’s just the way it is.
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Date People Relationship Way
Good pain is pain in the service of a purpose. Bad pain is pain endured because we are resisting a needed growth step.
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Endurance Goodness Growth Pain Resistance
Leave your pride, ego, and narcissism somewhere else. Reactions from those parts of you will reinforce your children’s most primitive fears.
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Children Fear Leave Pride Reaction Yourself
The fool tries to adjust the truth so he does not have to adjust to it.
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Adjust Fools Himself Truth
When truth presents itself, the wise person see the light, takes it in, and makes adjustments. The fool tries to adjust the truth so he does not have to adjust to it.
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Adjust Person Present Truth Wisdom
True intimacy is only build around the freedom to disagree.
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Built Disagree Freedom Intimacy True
I’m not an expert in the sociological realities of all the pastors in the world, but I would say that there are some very, very positive things about the state of integrity in church leaders.
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Diligence is not easy, but we can’t reach our goals without it.
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People tend to look at dating sort of like a safari – like they’re trying to land the trophy.
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Award Date People Perspective Relationship
Christianity is not about morality. It’s about reality.
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Morals Reality Religious
To grow, we need things that we do not have and cannot provide, and we need to have a source of those things who looks favorably upon us and who does things for us for our own good.
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We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.

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We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.

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