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We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.

Henry Cloud

To rescue people from the natural consequences of their behavior is to render them powerless.
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Consequence Natural People Power Rescue
The amount of truth a relationship can handle is proportional to the amount of perceived love that’s present.
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Amount Love Present Relationship Truth
Couples often live out years of falsehood trying to protect and save a relationship, all the while destroying any chance of real relationship.
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Chance Couple Destroy Fake Live Reality Relationship
Being right can never compete with doing well.
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Complete Right
A leader’s responsibility is to cause a vision and mission to have tangible results in the real world.
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Dating is primarily a numbers game. People usually go through a lot of people to find good relationships. That’s just the way it is.
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Date People Relationship Way
Faith goes beyond reason. It goes beyond what you can see. But it is as real as anything you can touch or feel.
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Beyond Faith Feeling Reason Touch
Just as we leave the effects of our work behind in results, we leave the effects of our interactions with people in their hearts, minds, and souls.
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Dating is a give and take. If you only see it as “Taking,” you are not getting it.
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Date Equality Yourself
Christianity is not about morality. It’s about reality.
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Morals Reality Religious
We have our own thoughts, and if we want others to know them, we must tell them.
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Ourselves Talk Thinking
Confronting an irresponsible person is not painful to him; only consequences are.
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Good pain is pain in the service of a purpose. Bad pain is pain endured because we are resisting a needed growth step.
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Endurance Goodness Growth Pain Resistance
If you are building a culture where honest expectations are communicated and peer accountability is the norm, then the group will address poor performance and attitudes.
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Attitude Build Communication Culture Expectation Honesty Performance
The opposite of bad is not good.The opposite of bad is love
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Dating is a place to practice how to relate to other people.
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Date People Place Practice
Love can only exist where freedom and responsibility are operating.
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Existence Freedom Love Operation Responsibility
Boundaries are basically about providing structure, and structure is essential in building anything that thrives.
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Boundary Essential Structure Thrive
You have to be able to face losing some things you might want in order to be free to do the right thing.
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Face Freedom Lose Order Right
When you encourage someone, it literally changes their brain chemistry to be able to perform, sends fuel to the brain.
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Brain Change Encourage Performance Yourself
If you want to become healthy, you have to surround yourself with a group of people that are getting healthy and you have to be connected to a community that is doing what you want to do.
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Community Group Health People Surround Yourself
The business of church is ultimately people. You’re trying to heal people, grow people, teach people, and mend people. And when leaders spend all of their time helping and growing other people, they ignore their own growth.
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The mature person meets the demands of life, while the immature person demands that life meet her demands.
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Demand Life Mature Person
A person who hasn’t grieved a significant loss has unfinished business inside and can cause others great grief as a result.
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Business Grief Person Result
Because dating is a human exercise, it can be a tightrope fraught with danger. You will be dating imperfect people, and some of them are more imperfect than others. In addition, you are not perfect either, so that complicates the picture.
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If people are really narcissistic or have a need to be seen as more than they really are, or to be admired as having it all together, then they cannot be followed and trusted by others.
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Follow Narcissism People Togetherness Trust
Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.
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Anand Thakur

We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.

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We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.

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