Irvin D. Yalom Quotes

Only free man are genuinely useful to one another and can form true friendships. And it’s absolutely permissible, by the highest right of Nature, for everyone to employ clear reason to determine how to live in a way that will allow him to flourish.
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Absolute Allow Clear Determine Empty Free Friendship Man Premiseble Way
I never want to take away something when I don’t have anything better to offer him in a way.
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Anything Beter Met never Something Take Way
The pain is there; when you close one door on it, it knocks to come in somewhere else.
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Close Come Door Else Knock One Pain Somewhere
Mature love is loving, not being loved.
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Being Love Loved Loving Mature
He had learned long ago that, in general, the easier it was for anxious patients to reach him, the less likely they were to call. (107)
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Ago Anxious Easier General Learn Less Long Patient Person Reach Viall
Does a being who requires meaning find meaning in a universe that has no meaning?
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Being Dose Mean Require Universal
I think my quarry is illusion. I war against magic. I believe that, though illusion often cheers and comforts, it ultimately and invariably weakens and constricts the spirit.
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Against Believe Cheer Comfort Illusion Magic Quarry Think Though
Reality always creeps in–the reality of our helplessness and our mortality; the reality that, despite our reach for the stars, a creaturely fate awaits us.
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Always Creep Experience Helplessness Indeed Morality Reality
Heidegger makes the distinction between being absorbed in the way things are in the world and being aware that things are in the world.
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Absorbed Being Distinction Heidegger Make Thing Way World
Only the wounded healer can truly heal. (97)
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Heal Healer Only Truly Wound
A focus on this deep dissatisfaction is often the starting point in overcoming death anxiety.
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Anxiety Death Deep Dissatisfaction Focus Overcome Point Strat
Many people are in despair because their dreams didn’t come true, and they despair even more that they did not make them come true.
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Come Despair Dream Even Many More People True
Therapists need to have a long experience in personal therapy to see what it’s like to be on the other side of the couch and see what they find helpful or not helpful. And if possible, get into therapy at different stages of their life with different kinds of therapists just to sample a bit.
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Couch Experience Like Long Need Personal Side Therapist
A free man who lives among the ignorant strives as far as he can to avoid their favors. A free man acts honestly, not deceptively.
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Avoid Deceptively Far Favor Free Genuine Ignorant Man
Death, however, does itch. It itches all the time. It is always with us, scratching at some inner door.
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Alway Death Does Door However Inner Itch Scratch Some Time
The more you fail to experience your life fully, the more you will fear death.
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Anxiety Death Fail Fear Fully Life More
If I’m among men who don’t agree at all with my nature, I will hardly be able to accommodate myself to them without greatly changing myself.
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Able Accomplish Agree Among Change Great Hardly Men Myself Nature
You will search the world over and not find a nonsuperstitious community. As long as there is ignorance, there will be adherence to superstition. Dispelling ignorance is the only solution. That is why I teach.
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Community Nonsuperstious Over Search World
A curious thought experiment. . . Nietzsche’s message to us was to live life in such a way that we would be willing to repeat the same life eternally
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Country Curious Experiment Life Live Message People Person Repeat Same Such Through Way Willing
The act of revealing oneself fully to another and still being accepted may be the major vehicle of therapeutic help.
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Accept Accuse Act Another Being Fully Oneself Reveal Therapeutic Vehicle
I don’t let any personal views about religion cause me to want to take away something that’s offering the patient comfort.
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Always Any Cause Comfort Let Offer Patient Personal Religion Something Take View Want
One doesn’t do existential therapy as a freestanding separate theory; rather it informs your approach to such issues as death, which many therapists tend to shy away from.
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Approach Death Existence Frestand Issue Ratherminform Separate Theory Therapy
Look out the other’s window. Try to see the world as your patient sees it.
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Look Other Out Patient See Window World
There are borderlines and there are borderlines. Labels do violence to people. You can’t treat the label; you have to treat the person behind the label. (17)
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Behind Borderline Label People Treat Violence
Not to take possession of your life plan is to let your existence be an accident.
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Accident Existence Let Life Plan Possession
The more unlived your life, the greater your death anxiety.
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Anxiety Creator Death Like More Unlive
I must stop him from being one of those who call themselves good because they have no claws.
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Being Call Claws Must No Stop Themselves

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