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When you’re the strong one, people don’t give you permission to hurt.

Iyanla Vanzant

We all want to be liked, loved, or needed. That is fine. What is not fine is what we are willing to do to make sure we are liked, or loved or needed. When we make the needs and wants of others a priority in our lives, we devalue ourselves.
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Live Love Need Ourselves Willing
Give yourself permission to smile a lot today. In fact, why not make it a habit!
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Habit Self Love Smile Yourself
Fear wears so many clever disguises it is virtually impossible to always recognize it. Fear disguises itself as the need to be somewhere else, doing something else, not knowing how to do something or not needing to do something.
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Fear Impossible Need Recognition Wisdom
Criticism does not make you smarter or better than the one you are criticizing. In fact, the stuff you are critical of in others is the same stuff you don’t like about yourself.
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Better Oneself Smart Yourself
The only thing that goes on in your life is what your allow to go on in your life.
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Choice Life Power Yourself
Don’t get hung up on the hard times, the challenges. Tell your story by highlighting the victories. Because it’s your victories that will inspire, motivate, encourage other people to live their stories in grander ways.
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Challenge Hard Time Live People Story Victory Yourself
When you continue to give without receiving, the only thing you are proving is that you know how to be taken advantage of.
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Character Generosity Weakness Yourself
Most of us know exactly what it is that creates the pain, confusion, stagnation and disruption in our lives. When we find something or someone creating in our lives that which we do not want, we must muster the courage and strength to stop it.
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Courage Creation Live Ourselves Pain Stop Strength
People may not like what you do, people may not like how you do it, but these people are not living your life. You are!
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Live People Yourself
Gratitude is like a magnet; the more grateful you are, the more you will receive to be grateful for.
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Gratitude Thankful Yourself
Have the courage to be exactly who you are without apology. Admit your mistakes without beating yourself up. Release all shame! Release all guilt! You cannot live if you are hiding behind what was. Focus on what is, right now, and that is you!
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Courage Focus Guilty Hide Live Mistake Shame Yourself
You can direct the outcome of any situation you face through the power of thought. Keep your thoughts focused on the best possible outcome for everyone involved and never allow yourself to be pushed where you don’t choose to be.
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Direction Position Possible Power Yourself
Challenges come so we can grow and be prepared for things we are not equipped to handle now.
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Challenge Growth Preparation Strength
Your willingness to look at your darkness is what empowers you to change.
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Change Darkness Deep Empowerment Willing Yourself
Many of us have a need to be right. We then set out to make ourselves right by making someone else wrong. We must get right with ourselves. Once we do, we will have so much to do, we will not have time to keep track of who is wrong.
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Need Ourselves Right Time Wrong
Speak and live in simple sentences. Bring closure- put a period to- those experiences that you don’t want to carry on forever and ever. Use commas in those places where you’re still growing and use exclamation points at the end of every lesson.
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Carry Experience Forever Growth Lesson Live Simplicity Talk
When you don’t show up as who you are, people fall in love with who you’re not. Then when they find out who you are, that’s when they leave.
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Be Yourself Fall In Love Leaving People
You set the standards for how you will be treated. People will treat you the exact way you treat yourself. So be good to you. Take time for yourself. Rest. Play. Shower yourself with affection, support, and gifts.
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Affection Goodness People Self Love Support Time Yourself
When you make a decision and a commitment to do something good for yourself, it is like dropping a pebble in a pond. It has a rippling effect. The firmer the decision, the stronger the frequency and wider the range of things that will be reached.
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Commitment Decision Goodness Self Love Yourself
Education does not take place when you learn something you did not know before. Education is your ability to use what you have learned to be better today than you were yesterday.
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Ability Education Learning Place Yourself
To honor life, we must be willing to grow through what we don’t know yet, and outgrow what we know no longer fits us. We must be willing to give in to the process, moment by moment, realizing a new plot may be unfolding.
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Growth Life Moments Willing
When the time comes for you to make a change or to grow, the universe will make you so uncomfortable you will eventually have no choice.
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Change Choice Growth Time
If you don’t ask for what you need, the need will keep getting bigger.
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Big Need Yourself
If you are afraid to take a chance, take one anyway. What you don’t do can create the same regrets as the mistakes you make.
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Afraid Creation Mistake Regret Yourself
Each day, focus your attention on what you want. Each day, take one step that will bring you closer to it. ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE! The key is to identify it, claim it for yourself, and believe that you are worthy to have it.
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Attention Focus Identify Possible Worth Yourself
With all things in life, we do not get what we ask for, we get what we expect.
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Expectation Life
You do not have to love what is going on in your life, but you must accept that it, whatever it is, is going on. As long as you do not accept reality, you are powerless to define the role you will play.
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Acceptance Life Love Play Reality Role Yourself

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