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Change doesn’t have to be hard, and healing doesn’t have to hurt. Surely by now you know that every thing happens for a reason! There is something better awaiting you on the other side of this.

Iyanla Vanzant

Family is supposed to be our safe haven. Very often, it’s the place where we find the deepest heartache.
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Deep Family Heart Broken Pain Place Safety
It’s important that we share our experiences with other people. Your story will heal you and your story will heal somebody else. When you tell your story, you free yourself and give other people permission to acknowledge their own story.
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Experience Freedom Healing Important Ourselves People Story Yourself
Nothing destroys self-worth, self-acceptance and self-love faster than denying what you feel. Without feelings, you would not know where you are in life. Nor would you know what areas you need to work on. Honor your feelings. Allow yourself to feel them.
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Acceptance Destroy Feeling Life Loss Recovery Self Love Worth Yourself
With all things in life, we do not get what we ask for, we get what we expect.
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Expectation Life
Listen for the instruction, instead of begging for the direction.
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Direction Listening
Everything that happens to you is a reflection of what you believe about yourself. We cannot outperform our level of self-esteem. We cannot draw to ourselves more than we think we are worth.
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Believe Reflection Thinking Worth Yourself
Loving yourself has nothing to do with being selfish, self-centered or self-engrossed. It means that you accept yourself for what you are. Loving yourself means that you accept responsibility for your own development, growth and happiness.
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Acceptance Development Growth Happiness Love Responsibility Yourself
Before you find out who you are, you have to figure out who you aren’t.
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Deep Spiritual Yourself
When you don’t show up as who you are, people fall in love with who you’re not. Then when they find out who you are, that’s when they leave.
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Be Yourself Fall In Love Leaving People
Many of us have a need to be right. We then set out to make ourselves right by making someone else wrong. We must get right with ourselves. Once we do, we will have so much to do, we will not have time to keep track of who is wrong.
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Need Ourselves Right Time Wrong
If you don’t ask for what you need, the need will keep getting bigger.
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Big Need Yourself
When the time comes for you to make a change or to grow, the universe will make you so uncomfortable you will eventually have no choice.
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Change Choice Growth Time
Fear wears so many clever disguises it is virtually impossible to always recognize it. Fear disguises itself as the need to be somewhere else, doing something else, not knowing how to do something or not needing to do something.
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Fear Impossible Need Recognition Wisdom
We all want to be liked, loved, or needed. That is fine. What is not fine is what we are willing to do to make sure we are liked, or loved or needed. When we make the needs and wants of others a priority in our lives, we devalue ourselves.
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Live Love Need Ourselves Willing
Everything happens when it needs to happen; everyone is always where they need to be. You will never miss out on what is meant for you, even if it has to come to you in a roundabout way.
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Life Missing Need Wisdom Yourself
When you continue to give without receiving, the only thing you are proving is that you know how to be taken advantage of.
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Character Generosity Weakness Yourself
You have a right to your thoughts and feelings. Your feelings are always valid.
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Feeling Right Yourself
It is not your duty or responsibility to change the minds of other people. The nature of their thinking is advanced or limited by their experience. In your presence, they have an opportunity to learn about you and, perhaps, to grow.
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Change Experience Growth Learning Limitation Mindset Opportunity Responsibility Thinking
If someone has offended you, insulted you, or disappointed you, let it go! If you are remembering all the ways you have been hurt or forgotten, let it go! Ask yourself, what good does it do for me to hold on to this?
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Disappoint Forget Goodness Insult Let Go Remember Yourself
Give yourself permission to smile a lot today. In fact, why not make it a habit!
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Habit Self Love Smile Yourself
You have to meet people where they are, and sometimes you have to leave them there.
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Leaving People Yourself
People may not like what you do, people may not like how you do it, but these people are not living your life. You are!
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Live People Yourself
Every day is your day if you claim it. If you wait for somebody else to make it for you, you’re going to be disappointed.
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Dissappoint Wait Yourself
Don’t get hung up on the hard times, the challenges. Tell your story by highlighting the victories. Because it’s your victories that will inspire, motivate, encourage other people to live their stories in grander ways.
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Challenge Hard Time Live People Story Victory Yourself
Be patient with yourself. Be gentle with yourself. Know that all things are working in your favor. If you take one step toward the light of Spirit, Spirit will take five steps on your behalf.
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Belief Light Patience Spirit Yourself
Acceptance means that you know, regardless of what happened, that there is something bigger than you at work. It also means you know that you are okay and that you will continue to be okay.
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Acceptance Wisdom Yourself
Why do we hold onto negativity? For some reason, we believe that others are affected by our experience of remaining upset, hurt or angry. Holding on to pain, anger, guilt or shame is the glue that binds us to the situation we want to escape.
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Anger Believe Escape Experience Guilty Hold On Hurt Ourselves Reason Shame

Change doesn’t have to be hard, and healing doesn’t have to hurt. Surely by now you know that every thing happens for a reason! There is something better awaiting you on the other side of this.

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Change doesn’t have to be hard, and healing doesn’t have to hurt. Surely by now you know that every thing happens for a reason! There is something better awaiting you on the other side of this.

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