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Don’t despair: despair suggests you are in total control and know what is coming. You don’t – surrender to events with hope.

Alain de Botton

Most victories are, in the best way, acts of revenge.
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Act Best Most Revenge Victory Way
Our responses to the world are crucially moulded by the company we keep, for we temper our curiosity to fit in with the expectations of others.
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Compare Crucial Expectation Keep Mould Other Response Temper World
Every realistic picture represents a choice as to which features of reality should be given prominence; no painting ever captures the whole.
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Capture Choice Every Realistic Feature Given Paint Picture Prominence Reality Represent
To be shown love is to feel ourselves the object of concern: our presence is noted, our name is registered, our views are listened to, our failings are treated with indulgence and our needs are ministered to. And under such care, we flourish.
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Concern Flourish Listen Love Note Object Ourselves Presence Register Shown View
When Proust urges us to evaluate the world properly, he repeatedly reminds us of the value of modest scenes.
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Evaluate Modest Property Repeatedly Scene Urge Value World
When you look at the Moon, you think, ‘I’m really small. What are my problems?’ It sets things into perspective. We should all look at the Moon a bit more often.
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Look Moon More Often Perspective Problem Really Small Think
One of the best protections against disappointment is to have a lot going on.
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Against Best Disappointment Lot Protection
The happiness that may emerge from taking a second look is central to Proust’s therapeutic conception. It reveals the extent to which our dissatisfactions may be the result of failing to look properly at our lives rather than the result of anything inherently deficient about them.
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Book Central Conception Emerge Happiness Property Reveal
Because the rhythm of conversation makes no allowance for dead periods, because the presence of others calls for continuous responses, we are left to regret the inanity of what we say, and the missed opportunity of what we do not.
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Allow Call Continuous Conversation Dead Make Misuse Opportunity Period Presence Rhythm
We should not feel embarrassed by our difficulties, only by our failure to grow anything beautiful from them.
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Anything Beautiful Difficulty Embarrassed Failure Feel
So many complaints boil down to the belly ache of the fragile, mortal, ignored ego in a vast and indifferent universe.
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Ache Belly Complaint Down Ego Fragile Ignore Universe
As an atheist, I think there are lots of things religions get up to which are of value to non-believers – and one of those things is trying to be a bit better than we normally manage to be.
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Atheist Believer Non Normal One Religion Thing Try Value
Arguments are like eels: however logical, they may slip from the minds weak grasp unless fixed there by imagery and style.
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Argument Eel Fixed Grasp Imagery Like Logical Mind Slip Style Unless Weak
We should read other people’s books in order to learn what we feel; it is our own thoughts we should be developing, even if it is another writer’s thought that help us to do so.
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Book Help Hope Order Other People Reckless
There is always the option of being emotionally lazy, that is, of quoting.
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Always Emotion Lazy Option Quote
Every adult life could be said to be defined by two great love stories: the story of our quest for sexual love and the story of our quest for love from the world.
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Define Every Adult Great Love Quest Sexual Story

Don’t despair: despair suggests you are in total control and know what is coming. You don’t – surrender to events with hope.

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