Forgiveness requires a sense that bad behaviour is a sign of suffering rather than malice.
ALAIN DE BOTTONDon’t despair: despair suggests you are in total control and know what is coming. You don’t – surrender to events with hope.
More Alain de Botton Quotes
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Everyone returns us to a different sense of ourselves, for we become a little of who they think we are.
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What is fascinating about marriage is why anyone wants to get married.
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One of the better guarantors of ending up in a good relationship: an advanced capacity to be alone.
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Most of our childhood is stored not in photos, but in certain biscuits, lights of day, smells, textures of carpet.
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Those who divorce aren’t necessarily the most unhappy, just those neatly able to believe their misery is caused by one other person.
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So many complaints boil down to the belly ache of the fragile, mortal, ignored ego in a vast and indifferent universe.
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It wasn’t only fanatics and drunkards who began conversations with strangers in public.
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Our greatest furies spring from events which violate our sense of the ground of our existence.
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We keep a special place in our hearts for people who refuse to be impressed by us.
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The fear of saying something stupid (which stupid people never have) has censored far more good ideas than bad ones.
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Most of us still caged within careers chosen for us by our not entirely worldly 18-22 year old selves.
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In a secularising world, art has replaced religion as a touchstone of our reverence and devotion.
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Artistic accounts involve severe abbreviations of what reality will force upon us.
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The more closely we analyze what we consider ‘sexy,’ the more clearly we will understand that eroticism is the feeling of excitement we experience at finding another human being who shares our values and our sense of the meaning of existence.
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Sweetness is the opposite of machismo, which is everywhere-and I really don’t get on with machismo. I’m interested in sensitivity, and weakness, and fear, and anxiety, because I think that, at the end of the day, behind our masks, that’s what we are.
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