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The problem is if you really believe in a society where those who merit to get to the top, get to the top, you’ll also, by implication … believe in a society where those who deserve to get to the bottom also get to the bottom and stay there.

Alain de Botton

One of the unexpectedly important things that art can do for us is to teach us how to suffer more successfully.
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Important One Successful Suffer Teach Thing Unexpectedly
The mind does most of its best thinking when we aren’t there. The answers are there in the morning.
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Answer Best Mind Morning Think
The difference between hope and despair is a different way of telling stories from the same facts.
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Badly Between Despair Difference Different Story Tell Way
The most attractive are not those who allow us to kiss them at once [we soon feel ungrateful] or those who never allow us to kiss them [we soon forget them], but those who coyly lead us between the two extremes.
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Allow Attractive Most Once Ungrateful
What is a snob? A snob is anybody who takes a small part of you and uses that to come to a complete vision of who you are. That is snobbery.
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Anybody Complete Part Small Snob Take Use Vision
If we are inclined to forget how much there is in the world besides that which we anticipate, then works of art are perhaps a little to blame, for in them we find at work the same process of simplification or selection as in the imagination.
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Anticipate Art Besides Forget Inclined Much Perhaps World
The attentions of others matter to us because we are afflicted by a congenital uncertainty as to our own value, as a result of which affliction we tend to allow others’ appraisals to play a determining role in how we see ourselves. Our sense of identity is held captive by the judgements of those we live among.
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Affiche Appraisal Attention Congenital Determine Matter People Uncertainty
Dreams reveal we never quite get ‘over’ anything: it’s all still in there somewhere.
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Anything Dream never Quite Reveal Somewhere
As victims of hurt, we frequently don’t bring up what ails us, because so many wounds look absurd in the light of day.
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Absurd Ail Bring Day Frequent Hurt Light Look Victim Wound
Maturity: knowing where you’re crazy, trying to warn others of the fact and striving to keep yourself under control.
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Control Crazy Know Maturity Try Under
I learnt to stop fantasising about the perfect job or the perfect relationship because that can actually be an excuse for not living.
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Actual Excuse Fantasies Job Learn Live Perfect Relationship
I passionately believe that’s it’s not just what you say that counts, it’s also how you say it – that the success of your argument critically depends on your manner of presenting it.
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Argument Believe Count Critical Manner Passionate Present Success
True respectability stems not from the will of the majority but from proper reasoning.
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Majority People Reason Respectability Stem
Envy: a confused, tangled guide to one’s own ambitions.
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Ambition Confuse Envy Tangle
One of our major flaws, and causes of unhappiness, is that we find it hard to take note of appreciate and be grateful for what is always around us. We suffer because we lose sight of the value of what is before us and yearn, often unfairly, for the imagined attraction elsewhere.
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Appreciate Cause Flaw Grateful Major Unhappiness
Because it’s bad enough not getting what you want, but it’s even worse to have an idea of what it is you want and find out at the end of the journey that it isn’t, in fact, what you wanted all along.
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The problem is if you really believe in a society where those who merit to get to the top, get to the top, you’ll also, by implication … believe in a society where those who deserve to get to the bottom also get to the bottom and stay there.

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The problem is if you really believe in a society where those who merit to get to the top, get to the top, you’ll also, by implication … believe in a society where those who deserve to get to the bottom also get to the bottom and stay there.

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