In a study we did of bereavement, we found that rather impressive numbers of widows and widowers had not simply gone back to their pre-loss functioning, but grown.
IRVIN D. YALOMI feel strongly, because a man who will himself die one day in the not to distant future and, also, as a psychiatrist who spent decades dealing with death anxiety, that confronting death allows us, not to open some noisome.
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Some sort of greater awareness of their own finiteness and what their time on earth really is, and what they really want to do with their lives, could help improve them.
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There was a time in our lives when we were so close that nothing seemed to obstruct our friendship and brotherhood, and only a small footbridge separated us.
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I don’t let any personal views about religion cause me to want to take away something that’s offering the patient comfort.
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If we climb high enough, we will reach a height from which tragedy ceases to look tragic.
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If one is to learn to live with the dead, one must first learn to live with the living!
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Some day soon, perhaps in forty years, there will be no one alive who has ever known me. That’s when I will be truly dead – when I exist in no one’s memory.
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Every person must choose how much truth he can stand.
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One doesn’t do existential therapy as a freestanding separate theory; rather it informs your approach to such issues as death, which many therapists tend to shy away from.
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The drive for power is not uncommonly motivated by this dynamic. One’s own fear and sense of limitation is avoided by enlarging oneself and one’s sphere of control.
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Since then mountains and torrential rivers and whatever separates and alienates have been cast between us, and even if we wanted to get together, we couldn’t. But when you now think of that little footbridge, words fail you and you sob and marvel.
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Live your life to the fullest; and then, and only then, die. Don’t leave any unlived life behind.
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Look out the other’s window. Try to see the world as your patient sees it.
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None of my patients are really troubled by the idea that some part of what they say might be in a book in the future.
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Specialness as a primary mode of death transcendence takes a number of other maladaptive forms.
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To love means to be actively concerned for the life and the growth of another.
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