There are borderlines and there are borderlines. Labels do violence to people. You can’t treat the label; you have to treat the person behind the label. (17)
IRVIN D. YALOMIf one is to love oneself one must behave in ways that one can admire.
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The drive for power is not uncommonly motivated by this dynamic. One’s own fear and sense of limitation is avoided by enlarging oneself and one’s sphere of control.
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Heidegger makes the distinction between being absorbed in the way things are in the world and being aware that things are in the world.
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One comprehends oneself in order not to be preoccupied with oneself.
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The creative members of an orthodoxy, any orthodoxy, ultimately outgrow their disciplines.
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Life is a spark between two identical voids, the darkness before birth and the one after death.
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Despite the staunchest, most venerable defenses, we can never completely subdue death anxiety: it is always there, lurking in some hidden ravine of the mind.
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Perhaps the single most important therapeutic credo that I have is that the unexamined life is not worth living.
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Rather, love is a way of being, a “giving to,” not a ‘falling for”; a mode of relating at large, not an act limited to a single person.
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Marriage and its entourage of possession and jealousy enslave the spirit.
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Absolute power, as we have always known, corrupts absolutely; it corrupts because it does not do the trick for the individual.
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…the more unlived your life, the greater your death anxiety.
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I thought a lot about how someone very old is the last living individual to have known some person or cluster of people.
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It’s not easy to live every moment wholly aware of death. It’s like trying to stare the sun in the face: you can stand only so much of it. Because we cannot live frozen in fear, we generate methods to soften death’s terror.
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Many people are in despair because their dreams didn’t come true, and they despair even more that they did not make them come true.
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Life is a miserable thing. I have decided to spend my life thinking about it.
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