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I am in general a very pessimistic person with an optimistic, day to day take on things. The bare facts of life are utterly terrifying. And yet, one can laugh. Indeed, one has to laugh precisely because of the darkness: the nervous laughter of the trenches.

Alain de Botton

We need objects to remind us of the commitments we’ve made. That carpet from Morocco reminds us of the impulsive, freedom-loving side of ourselves we’re in danger of losing touch with. Beautiful furniture gives us something to live up to. All designed objects are propaganda for a way of life.
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Carpet Commitment Freedom Impulsive Need Object Remind
Forgiveness requires a sense that bad behaviour is a sign of suffering rather than malice.
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Behaviour Forgive Malice Require Sense Sign Suffer
Our sadness won’t be of the searing kind but more like a blend of joy and melancholy: joy at the perfection we see before us, melancholy at an awareness of how seldom we are sufficiently blessed to encounter anything of its kind.
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Before Blend Define Joy Melancholy Perfection Sadness Sear
Our jobs make relentless calls on a narrow band of our faculties, reducing our chances of achieving rounded personalities and leaving us to suspect (often in the gathering darkness of a Sunday evening) that much of who we are, or could be, has gone unexplored.
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Achieve Band Faculty Job Make Narrow Personality Reduce Change Relentless Round
Because it’s bad enough not getting what you want, but it’s even worse to have an idea of what it is you want and find out at the end of the journey that it isn’t, in fact, what you wanted all along.
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Along End Get Idea Want Wnough Worse
Every realistic picture represents a choice as to which features of reality should be given prominence; no painting ever captures the whole.
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Capture Choice Every Realistic Feature Given Paint Picture Prominence Reality Represent
One of our major flaws, and causes of unhappiness, is that we find it hard to take note of appreciate and be grateful for what is always around us. We suffer because we lose sight of the value of what is before us and yearn, often unfairly, for the imagined attraction elsewhere.
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Appreciate Cause Flaw Grateful Major Unhappiness
We are all more intelligent than we are capable, and awareness of the insanity of love has never saved anyone from the disease.
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Anyone Aware Capable Disease Instantly Intelligent Love More never Save
The mind may be reluctant to think properly when thinking is all it is supposed to do; the task can be as paralysing as having to tell a joke or mimic an accent on demand.
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Mimic Mind Paralyse Properly Recusant Suppose Think
What should worry us is not the number of people that oppose us, but how good their reasons are for doing so.
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Good Number Oppose People Reason Worry
Getting to the top has an unfortunate tendency to persuade people that the system is OK after all.
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After All Get OK People System Tendency Top Unfortunate
The fear of saying something stupid (which stupid people never have) has censored far more good ideas than bad ones.
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Censor Fear Idea People Say Something Stupid
True respectability stems not from the will of the majority but from proper reasoning.
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Majority People Reason Respectability Stem
Art holds out the promise of inner wholeness.
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Art Hold Inner Promise Wholeness
As adults, we try to develop the character traits that would have rescued our parents.
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Adult Character Develop Parent Rescue Trait
The good parent: someone who doesn’t mind, for a time, being hated by their children.
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Children Good Hate Mind Parent Someone Time

I am in general a very pessimistic person with an optimistic, day to day take on things. The bare facts of life are utterly terrifying. And yet, one can laugh. Indeed, one has to laugh precisely because of the darkness: the nervous laughter of the trenches.

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I am in general a very pessimistic person with an optimistic, day to day take on things. The bare facts of life are utterly terrifying. And yet, one can laugh. Indeed, one has to laugh precisely because of the darkness: the nervous laughter of the trenches.

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