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The materialistic view of happiness of our age starkly revealed in our understanding of the word “luxury.

Alain de Botton

Most anger stems from feelings of weakness, sadness and fear: hard to remember when one is at the receiving end of its defiant roar.
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Anger End Fear Feel Most Receive Remember Weakness
The need for love hallucinates a prince or princess. The oasis complex is never a complete delusion: the man in the desert does see something on the horizon. It is just that the palms have withered, the well is dry, and the place is infected with locusts.
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Complex Delusion Desert Hallucinate Horizon Need Oasis Prince Princess
Without sex, we would be dangerously invulnerable. We might believe we were not ridiculous. We wouldn’t know rejection and humiliation so intimately.
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Believe Dangerous Immediate Invulnerable Reject Ridiculous Sex
Every time we feel satisfied with what we have, we can be counted as rich, however little we may actually possess.
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Every Time Feel Little Possess Rich Satisfy
To be shown love is to feel ourselves the object of concern: our presence is noted, our name is registered, our views are listened to, our failings are treated with indulgence and our needs are ministered to. And under such care, we flourish.
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Concern Flourish Listen Love Note Object Ourselves Presence Register Shown View
Those who divorce aren’t necessarily the most unhappy, just those neatly able to believe their misery is caused by one other person.
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Belive Cause Divorce Most Neat Necessary Other Unhappy
Most of our childhood is stored not in photos, but in certain biscuits, lights of day, smells, textures of carpet.
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Biscuit Carpet Childhood Day Light Most Photo Smell Store Texture
A successful work will draw out the features capable of exciting a sense of beauty and interest in the spectator.
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Beauty Capable Excite Feature Sense Spectator Successful Work
Intimacy is the capacity to be rather weird with someone – and finding that that’s ok with them.
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Capacity Find Intimacy Rather Someone
The attentions of others matter to us because we are afflicted by a congenital uncertainty as to our own value, as a result of which affliction we tend to allow others’ appraisals to play a determining role in how we see ourselves. Our sense of identity is held captive by the judgements of those we live among.
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Affiche Appraisal Attention Congenital Determine Matter People Uncertainty
We are presented with an unpleasant choice between either committing to peculiar concepts about immaterial deities or letting go entirely of a host of consoling, subtle or just charming rituals for which we struggle to find equivalents in secular society.
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Demonic Present Secular Society Struggle Unpleasant Virtue
It is in dialogue with pain that many beautiful things acquire their value. Acquaintance with grief turns out to be one of the more unusual prerequisites of architectural appreciation. We might, quite aside from all other requirements, need to be a little sad before buildings can properly touch us.
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Acquaintance Acquire Beautiful Dialogue Grief Pain Thing Turn More Value
Although I don’t believe in God, Bach’s music shows me what a love of God must feel like.
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Believe Feel God Love Music Must Show
The telephone becomes an instrument of torture in the demonic hands of a beloved who doesn’t call.
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Call Demonic Instrument Telephone Torture
It seems that most of us could benefit from a brush with a near-fatal disaster to help us recognise the important things that we are too defeated or embittered to recognise from day to day.
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Benefit Brush Disaster Fatal Help Important Recognise Seem Thing
What I want to argue for is not that we should give up on our ideas of success, but that we should make sure that they are our own. We should focus in on our ideas and make sure that we own them, that we’re truly the authors of our own ambitions.
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Ambition Argue Author Focus Idea Make Own Success Sure Want

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