“In the end, as a leader, you are always going to get a combination of two things: what you create and what you allow.”

Anger is frustration at the fact that we are not God, and do not have control over reality.

It is true that you get what you tolerate.

The extent to which two people in a relationship can bring up and resolve issues is a critical marker of the soundness of a relationship.

A person who hasn’t grieved a significant loss has unfinished business inside and can cause others great grief as a result.

The fool tries to adjust the truth so he does not have to adjust to it.

Dating should be a part of your life, not your life a part of dating. There is more to life than finding a date.

A culture is like an immune system. It operates through the laws of systems, just like a body. If a body has an infection, the immune system deals with it. Similarly, a group enforces its norms, either actively or passively.

The sad thing is that many of us come to Christ because we are sinners, and then spend the rest of our lives trying to pretend that we are not!

Dating is about finding out who you are and who others are. If you show up in a masquerade outfit, neither is going to happen.

Dont use all-or-nothing thinking. Take each day as its own day, and dont worry about it if you mess up one day. The most important thing you can do is just get back up on the horse.

Everything has seasons, and we have to be able to recognize when something’s time has passed and be able to move into the next season. Everything that is alive requires pruning as well, which is a great metaphor for endings.

Dating is a place to practice how to relate to other people.

When leaders lead in ways that people’s brains can follow, good results follow as well.

Boundaries are basically about providing structure, and structure is essential in building anything that thrives.

Christianity is not about morality. It’s about reality.

Spouses in healthy relationships cherish each other’s space and are champions of each other’s causes.