Specialness as a primary mode of death transcendence takes a number of other maladaptive forms.
IRVIN D. YALOMMany people are in despair because their dreams didn’t come true, and they despair even more that they did not make them come true.
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We take pleasure not only in the growth of our patient but also in the ripple effect—the salutary influence our patients have upon those whom they touch in life.
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One thing I feel clear about is that it’s important not to let your life live you. Otherwise, you end up at forty feeling you haven’t really lived. What have I learned? Perhaps to live now, so that at fifty I won’t look back upon my forties with regret.
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In a study we did of bereavement, we found that rather impressive numbers of widows and widowers had not simply gone back to their pre-loss functioning, but grown.
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The therapist can make the group feel safer by allowing each patient to set his or her limits and by emphasizing the patient’s control over every interaction.
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Many people are in despair because their dreams didn’t come true, and they despair even more that they did not make them come true.
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Mirroring, softly, barely audibly, just under the membrane of consciousness.
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If one is to learn to live with the dead, one must first learn to live with the living!
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The spirit of a man is constructed out of his choices.
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If people in their 20s had more death awareness, would that in fact temper their ambition or drive?
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One comprehends oneself in order not to be preoccupied with oneself.
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When that person dies, the whole cluster dies,too, vanishes from the living memory. I wonder who that person will be for me. Whose death will make me truly dead?
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Live your life to the fullest; and then, and only then, die. Don’t leave any unlived life behind.
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The act of revealing oneself fully to another and still being accepted may be the major vehicle of therapeutic help.
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There was a time in our lives when we were so close that nothing seemed to obstruct our friendship and brotherhood, and only a small footbridge separated us.
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It’s not easy to live every moment wholly aware of death. It’s like trying to stare the sun in the face: you can stand only so much of it. Because we cannot live frozen in fear, we generate methods to soften death’s terror.
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