A free man who lives among the ignorant strives as far as he can to avoid their favors. A free man acts honestly, not deceptively.
IRVIN D. YALOMWe project ourselves into the future through our children; we grow rich, famous, ever larger; we develop compulsive protective rituals; or we embrace an impregnable belief in an ultimate rescuer.
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If you want to choose the pleasure of growth, prepare yourself for some pain.
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What? ‘Borderline patients play games’? That what you said? Ernest, you’ll never be a real therapist if you think like that. That’s exactly what I meant earlier when I talked about the dangers of diagnosis.
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The spirit of a man is constructed out of his choices.
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I think we ripple on into others, just like a stone puts its ripples into a brook. That, for me, too, is a source of comfort. It kind of, in a sense, negates the sense of total oblivion.
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I don’t let any personal views about religion cause me to want to take away something that’s offering the patient comfort.
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Specialness as a primary mode of death transcendence takes a number of other maladaptive forms.
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Only free man are genuinely useful to one another and can form true friendships. And it’s absolutely permissible, by the highest right of Nature, for everyone to employ clear reason to determine how to live in a way that will allow him to flourish.
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If one is to learn to live with the dead, one must first learn to live with the living!
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When that person dies, the whole cluster dies,too, vanishes from the living memory. I wonder who that person will be for me. Whose death will make me truly dead?
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…the more unlived your life, the greater your death anxiety.
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Many people are in despair because their dreams didn’t come true, and they despair even more that they did not make them come true.
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And if you do the latter, you’re not so worried about the everyday trivialities of life, for example, petty concerns about secrecy or privacy.
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Rather, love is a way of being, a “giving to,” not a ‘falling for”; a mode of relating at large, not an act limited to a single person.
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The pain is there; when you close one door on it, it knocks to come in somewhere else.
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Only the wounded healer can truly heal. (97)
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