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Death loses its terror if one dies when one has consummated one’s life!

Irvin D. Yalom

The more you fail to experience your life fully, the more you will fear death.
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Anxiety Death Fail Fear Fully Life More
Specialness as a primary mode of death transcendence takes a number of other maladaptive forms.
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Death Form Mode Number Other Primary Specialties Take Transcendence
There are borderlines and there are borderlines. Labels do violence to people. You can’t treat the label; you have to treat the person behind the label. (17)
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Behind Borderline Label People Treat Violence
If one is to love oneself one must behave in ways that one can admire.
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Admire Behave Love Must One Oneself Way
We take pleasure not only in the growth of our patient but also in the ripple effect—the salutary influence our patients have upon those whom they touch in life.
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Effect Growth Life Local Patient Pleasure Ripple Salutary Take Touch
Since then mountains and torrential rivers and whatever separates and alienates have been cast between us, and even if we wanted to get together, we couldn’t. But when you now think of that little footbridge, words fail you and you sob and marvel.
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Alternate Between Footprint Marvel Mountain Now Sob Think Together Torrential
Therapists need to have a long experience in personal therapy to see what it’s like to be on the other side of the couch and see what they find helpful or not helpful. And if possible, get into therapy at different stages of their life with different kinds of therapists just to sample a bit.
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Couch Experience Like Long Need Personal Side Therapist
One thing I feel clear about is that it’s important not to let your life live you. Otherwise, you end up at forty feeling you haven’t really lived. What have I learned? Perhaps to live now, so that at fifty I won’t look back upon my forties with regret.
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Clear Feel Important Lety Live One Thing
The path to decision may be hard because it leads into the territory of both finiteness and groundlessness—domains soaked in anxiety.
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Anxiety Both Decision Domain Finiteness Groundlessness Hard Lead Path Soak Territory
Life is a spark between two identical voids, the darkness before birth and the one after death.
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Before Birth Darkness Death Identical Life Spark Void
The spirit of a man is constructed out of his choices.
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Choice Construct Man Out Spirit
A curious thought experiment. . . Nietzsche’s message to us was to live life in such a way that we would be willing to repeat the same life eternally
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Country Curious Experiment Life Live Message People Person Repeat Same Such Through Way Willing
In a study we did of bereavement, we found that rather impressive numbers of widows and widowers had not simply gone back to their pre-loss functioning, but grown.
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Back Bereavement Found Gone Impressive Number Old Rather Simply Study Widow Windower
Psychiatry is a strange field because, unlike any other field of medicine, you never really finish.
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Field Finish Medicine Other Psychiatry Really Straight Unlike
What? ‘Borderline patients play games’? That what you said? Ernest, you’ll never be a real therapist if you think like that. That’s exactly what I meant earlier when I talked about the dangers of diagnosis.
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Country Emest Game never People Person Real Said Therapist Think
A focus on this deep dissatisfaction is often the starting point in overcoming death anxiety.
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Anxiety Death Deep Dissatisfaction Focus Overcome Point Strat

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