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One comprehends oneself in order not to be preoccupied with oneself.

Irvin D. Yalom

There was a time in our lives when we were so close that nothing seemed to obstruct our friendship and brotherhood, and only a small footbridge separated us.
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Brotherhood Close Friendship Live Nothing Obstruct Out Seem Small Time
Death loses its terror if one dies when one has consummated one’s life!
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Consummated Death Die Life Lose One Terror
In a study we did of bereavement, we found that rather impressive numbers of widows and widowers had not simply gone back to their pre-loss functioning, but grown.
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Back Bereavement Found Gone Impressive Number Old Rather Simply Study Widow Windower
I think we ripple on into others, just like a stone puts its ripples into a brook. That, for me, too, is a source of comfort. It kind of, in a sense, negates the sense of total oblivion.
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Brook Comfort Obvious Other Put Ripple Sense Source Stone Think
If you want to choose the pleasure of growth, prepare yourself for some pain.
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Choose Growth Pain Pleasure Prepare Some Want
Living safely is dangerous.
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Dangerous Live Safely
Death, however, does itch. It itches all the time. It is always with us, scratching at some inner door.
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Alway Death Does Door However Inner Itch Scratch Some Time
There are borderlines and there are borderlines. Labels do violence to people. You can’t treat the label; you have to treat the person behind the label. (17)
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Behind Borderline Label People Treat Violence
Live your life to the fullest; and then, and only then, die. Don’t leave any unlived life behind.
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Die Fullest Life Live Only Then
A focus on this deep dissatisfaction is often the starting point in overcoming death anxiety.
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Anxiety Death Deep Dissatisfaction Focus Overcome Point Strat
If people in their 20s had more death awareness, would that in fact temper their ambition or drive?
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Ambition Awareness Death Drive Fact More People Temper Twenty
All these things I’ve written so much about. That’s why I’ve made such a practice really, over and over to hammer home the point of self-revelation and being more of yourself and showing yourself. Every book I write I want to get that in there.
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Almost Come Everybody More Practice Revelation Seen Self Show Some Therapy Want Write Yourself
Specialness as a primary mode of death transcendence takes a number of other maladaptive forms.
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Death Form Mode Number Other Primary Specialties Take Transcendence
Since then mountains and torrential rivers and whatever separates and alienates have been cast between us, and even if we wanted to get together, we couldn’t. But when you now think of that little footbridge, words fail you and you sob and marvel.
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Alternate Between Footprint Marvel Mountain Now Sob Think Together Torrential
This was due to a kind of increased existential awareness that resulted from this confrontation with the death of another. And I think it brought them in touch with their own death, so they began to experience a kind of preciousness to life that comes with an experience of its transiency.
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Awareness Began Brought Come Confrontation Death Due Existential Experience Increase Preciousness Think
It’s not easy to live every moment wholly aware of death. It’s like trying to stare the sun in the face: you can stand only so much of it. Because we cannot live frozen in fear, we generate methods to soften death’s terror.
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Aware Death East Every Face Moment Much Not Only Stand Stare Sun Terror Try

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