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One comprehends oneself in order not to be preoccupied with oneself.

Irvin D. Yalom

Life is a miserable thing. I have decided to spend my life thinking about it.
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Decide Life Miserable Spend Think
Therapists need to have a long experience in personal therapy to see what it’s like to be on the other side of the couch and see what they find helpful or not helpful. And if possible, get into therapy at different stages of their life with different kinds of therapists just to sample a bit.
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Couch Experience Like Long Need Personal Side Therapist
Only free man are genuinely useful to one another and can form true friendships. And it’s absolutely permissible, by the highest right of Nature, for everyone to employ clear reason to determine how to live in a way that will allow him to flourish.
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Absolute Allow Clear Determine Empty Free Friendship Man Premiseble Way
One thing I feel clear about is that it’s important not to let your life live you. Otherwise, you end up at forty feeling you haven’t really lived. What have I learned? Perhaps to live now, so that at fifty I won’t look back upon my forties with regret.
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Clear Feel Important Lety Live One Thing
Mature love is loving, not being loved.
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Being Love Loved Loving Mature
There are borderlines and there are borderlines. Labels do violence to people. You can’t treat the label; you have to treat the person behind the label. (17)
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Behind Borderline Label People Treat Violence
Every person must choose how much truth he can stand.
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Choose Every Must Person Stand Truth
Reality always creeps in–the reality of our helplessness and our mortality; the reality that, despite our reach for the stars, a creaturely fate awaits us.
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Always Creep Experience Helplessness Indeed Morality Reality
None of my patients are really troubled by the idea that some part of what they say might be in a book in the future.
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Book Future Idea might None Part Patient Reality Say Some Trouble
Were not teaching our students the importance of relationships with other people: how you work with them, what the relational pathology consists of, how you examine your own conscience, how you examine the inner world, how you examine your dreams.
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Important Pathology People Relationship Student Teach Work
To the best of my knowledge, every acute inpatient ward offers some inpatient group therapy experience.
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Acute Best Every Experience Impatient Knowledge Offer Some Therapy
The therapist can make the group feel safer by allowing each patient to set his or her limits and by emphasizing the patient’s control over every interaction.
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Allow Each Emphasize Group InterAction Limit Patient Safer Set Therapist
If one is to love oneself one must behave in ways that one can admire.
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Admire Behave Love Must One Oneself Way
If you want to choose the pleasure of growth, prepare yourself for some pain.
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Choose Growth Pain Pleasure Prepare Some Want
Life as a therapist is a life of service in which we daily transcend our personal wishes and turn our gaze toward the needs and growth of the other.
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Gaze Growth Life Need Personal Service Therapist Towards Transcend Wish
Heidegger makes the distinction between being absorbed in the way things are in the world and being aware that things are in the world.
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Absorbed Being Distinction Heidegger Make Thing Way World

One comprehends oneself in order not to be preoccupied with oneself.

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