If one is to love oneself one must behave in ways that one can admire.
IRVIN D. YALOMOne comprehends oneself in order not to be preoccupied with oneself.
More Irvin D. Yalom Quotes
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I thought a lot about how someone very old is the last living individual to have known some person or cluster of people.
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You know, I think everybody I’ve seen has come from some other therapy, and almost invariably it’s very much the same thing: the therapist is too disinterested, a little too aloof, a little too inactive. They’re not really interested in the person, he doesn’t relate to the person.
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When people don’t have any curiosity about themselves, that is always a bad sign.
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The more you fail to experience your life fully, the more you will fear death.
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I don’t let any personal views about religion cause me to want to take away something that’s offering the patient comfort.
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Some sort of greater awareness of their own finiteness and what their time on earth really is, and what they really want to do with their lives, could help improve them.
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The spirit of a man is constructed out of his choices.
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Marriage and its entourage of possession and jealousy enslave the spirit.
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There was a time in our lives when we were so close that nothing seemed to obstruct our friendship and brotherhood, and only a small footbridge separated us.
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The pain is there; when you close one door on it, it knocks to come in somewhere else.
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Life as a therapist is a life of service in which we daily transcend our personal wishes and turn our gaze toward the needs and growth of the other.
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There are borderlines and there are borderlines. Labels do violence to people. You can’t treat the label; you have to treat the person behind the label. (17)
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When that person dies, the whole cluster dies,too, vanishes from the living memory. I wonder who that person will be for me. Whose death will make me truly dead?
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In a study we did of bereavement, we found that rather impressive numbers of widows and widowers had not simply gone back to their pre-loss functioning, but grown.
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The creative members of an orthodoxy, any orthodoxy, ultimately outgrow their disciplines.
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