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The fool tries to adjust the truth so he does not have to adjust to it.

Henry Cloud

Things don’t change in a marriage until the spouse who is taking responsibility for a problem that is not hers decides to say or do something about it.
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Change Decision Marriage Responsibility
A good test of a relationship is how a person responds to the word ‘no.’ Love respects ‘no,’ control does not.
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Control Goodness Person Reaction Relationship Respond Test
There is a difference between solitude and isolation. One is connected and one isn’t. Solitude replenishes, isolation diminishes.
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Anand Thakur
We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.
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Behavior Change Motivational Ourselves Pain
I’m not an expert in the sociological realities of all the pastors in the world, but I would say that there are some very, very positive things about the state of integrity in church leaders.
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Anand Thakur
We have our own thoughts, and if we want others to know them, we must tell them.
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Ourselves Talk Thinking
Love can only exist where freedom and responsibility are operating.
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Existence Freedom Love Operation Responsibility
There’s no better way to become a disintegrated character than to be your own authority.
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Anand Thakur
The opposite of bad is not good.The opposite of bad is love
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Anand Thakur
Be Hard on the issue, Soft on the person.
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Issues Person Problem Relationship Soft
Independence is not an option for us. Remember, God existed without us.
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Anand Thakur
Leave your pride, ego, and narcissism somewhere else. Reactions from those parts of you will reinforce your children’s most primitive fears.
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Children Fear Leave Pride Reaction Yourself
Anger is frustration at the fact that we are not God, and do not have control over reality.
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Angry Control Fact Frustration Ourselves Reality
Everything has seasons, and we have to be able to recognize when something’s time has passed and be able to move into the next season. Everything that is alive requires pruning as well, which is a great metaphor for endings.
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Greatness Metaphor Passion Recognition Season Time
Marriage is not slavery. It is based on a love relationship deeply rooted in freedom. Each partner is free from the other and therefore free to love the other. Where there is control, or perception of control, there is not love. Love only exists where there is freedom.
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Control Freedom Love Marriage Partner Relationship Slave
For someone’s character to grow, it has to be free from internal attack. Falling down never stopped children from developing. But getting yelled at, criticized, and put down can stop them for life.
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Character Children Criticism Freedom Growth Life Stop

The fool tries to adjust the truth so he does not have to adjust to it.

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