If you’re never able to tolerate a little bit of pain and discomfort, you’ll never get better.
ANGELA DUCKWORTHThere’s this really awesome theory of human motivation – that human beings all want three things. One is to be competent, one is to belong, and one is be free, as in to have choice: to not be told what to do but to choose what to do.
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I know that instructional time is a zero-sum game, but if we want kids to do well academically, it’s hard to imagine that happening if they don’t have some control over their attention.
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Substituting nuance for novelty is what experts do, and that is why they are never bored.
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Very few people can keep going their whole life doing something and feel like it’s merely personally fascinating.
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Grit may carry risk because it’s about putting all your eggs in one basket, to some extent.
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I think the very idea of character, of developing not just grit, but empathy and curiosity, emotional intelligence.
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People who are really gritty – they’re still interested.
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Is it ‘a drag’ that passions don’t come to us all at once, as epiphanies, without the need to actively develop them?
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I stayed for lunch for extra tutoring, gave kids my cell phone, and was available. In my first year of teaching,
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Maybe. But the reality is that our early interests are fragile, vaguely defined, and in need of energetic, years-long cultivation and refinement.
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I didn’t tell my kids, ‘You have to play viola, and you have to play piano.’ They chose these things on their own, and I don’t think we have to give kids every choice, but we do have to give them some choice because that autonomy is crucial for fostering passion.
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I ended up doubling the math time that a conventional school would have. But I don’t think any of these things were path-breaking or unusual.
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So when my daughter told me on the second track meet that she was done with it because she discovered she didn’t like competing, I made her finish the season.
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What we reliably find is that people’s perseverance scores are actually higher than their passion scores, and I think it really does get to the fact that working hard is hard, but maybe finding your passion is even more difficult.
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Some of the things we do are great, but they often have these iterations that are not great. We screw up sometimes. We get rejected.
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The most important thing parents can do, although it’s not the only thing they should do, is model the behavior they want from their kids.
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