I think it’s very important to send the message that, while parents are needed to remind you to practice and occasionally force you to finish things… they also need to learn to respect you. You as an individual, ultimately, are the captain of where you’re going.
ANGELA DUCKWORTH
ANGELA DUCKWORTH
Angela Duckworth on message
Angela Duckworth86 quotes“I think it’s very important to send the message that, while parents are needed to remind you to practice and occasionally force you to finish things… they also need to learn to respect you. You as an individual, ultimately, are the captain of where you’re going.”
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Angela DuckworthAngela Duckworth Some people prefer a world where we’re all equally talented in everything. Whether you prefer that world or not, I don’t think that world exists.
Angela DuckworthAngela Duckworth I don’t think that every child in America is going to necessarily aspire to, you know, a four-year degree from a liberal arts college or a certain kind of life. I think that people should learn to be excellent in the thing that they choose to do.
Angela DuckworthAngela Duckworth I don’t spend a lot of time thinking about my genes because I can’t do anything about them.
Angela DuckworthAngela Duckworth Negative feelings are typical of learning, and you shouldn’t feel like you’re stupid when you’re frustrated doing something. You might say to yourself, ‘I can’t do this,’ but you should say, ‘That’s great.’ That means you really have the potential to learn something there.
Angela DuckworthAngela Duckworth You know, the things that I want my own daughters to develop – the idea that we’re going to get there through rewards and punishments seems completely at odds with the idea of character itself.
Angela DuckworthAngela Duckworth What we reliably find is that people’s perseverance scores are actually higher than their passion scores, and I think it really does get to the fact that working hard is hard, but maybe finding your passion is even more difficult.
Angela DuckworthAngela Duckworth There are going to be peaks and valleys. You don’t want to let kids quit during a valley.
Angela DuckworthAngela Duckworth One of the challenges of commencement speeches is that you have this older, wiser person who is accomplished talking to young, not-yet-so-wise, not-yet-accomplished adults or, in high school or middle school, even younger.
Angela DuckworthAngela Duckworth Some of the things we do are great, but they often have these iterations that are not great. We screw up sometimes. We get rejected.
Angela DuckworthAngela Duckworth Very few people can keep going their whole life doing something and feel like it’s merely personally fascinating.
Angela DuckworthAngela Duckworth Grit, in a word, is stamina. But it’s not just stamina in your effort.
Angela DuckworthAngela Duckworth The most important thing parents can do, although it’s not the only thing they should do, is model the behavior they want from their kids.
Angela DuckworthAngela Duckworth It’s also stamina in your direction, stamina in your interests. If you are working on different things but all of them very hard, you’re not really going to get anywhere. You’ll never become an expert.
Angela DuckworthAngela Duckworth I do think that whatever ambition I may have had natively was amplified by my father’s clear valuing of it. I knew that was what my dad really cared about.
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