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We need a home in the psychological sense as much as we need one in the physical: to compensate for a vulnerability.

Alain de Botton

There is a longing for a return to a time without the need for choices, free of the regret at the inevitable loss that all choice (however wonderful) has entailed.
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Choice Inevitable Long Loss Need Regret Return Time
Curiosity might be pictured as being made up of chains of small questions extending outwards, sometimes over huge distances, from a central hub composed of a few blunt, large questions.
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Curiosity Distance Extend Huge Outward Picture Question Small Some Time
Sweetness is the opposite of machismo, which is everywhere-and I really don’t get on with machismo. I’m interested in sensitivity, and weakness, and fear, and anxiety, because I think that, at the end of the day, behind our masks, that’s what we are.
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Everywhere Get Interest Kind Machine Machismo Opposite Really Sensitive Sweetness
Our jobs make relentless calls on a narrow band of our faculties, reducing our chances of achieving rounded personalities and leaving us to suspect (often in the gathering darkness of a Sunday evening) that much of who we are, or could be, has gone unexplored.
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Achieve Band Faculty Job Make Narrow Personality Reduce Change Relentless Round
If we are inclined to forget how much there is in the world besides that which we anticipate, then works of art are perhaps a little to blame, for in them we find at work the same process of simplification or selection as in the imagination.
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Anticipate Art Besides Forget Inclined Much Perhaps World
In the oasis complex, the thirsty man images he sees water, palm trees, and shade not because he has evidence for the belief, but because he has a need for it. Desperate needs bring about a hallucination of their solution: thirst hallucinates water.
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Belief Complex Evidence Man Oasis Palm Thirsty Tree Water
I think people want to get married to end their emotional uncertainty. In a way, they want to end powerful feelings, or certainly the negative ones.
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Emotional End Feeling Married People Powerful Uncertain
Not being understood may be taken as a sign that there is much in one to understand.
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Mauch Sign Taken Understand Understood
Which seems no less relevant in the secular realm than in the religious one-that we have within us a precious, childlike, vulnerable core which we should nourish and nurture on its turbulent journey through life.
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Childlike Journey Life Nourish Precious Relevant Secular Seem Vulnerable
The moment we cry in a film is not when things are sad but when they turn out to be more beautiful than we expected them to be.
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Beautiful Cry Expect Film Moment More Thing
We study biology, physics, movements of glaciers… Where are the classes on envy, feeling wronged, despair, bitterness.
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Biology Bitterness Class Envy Feeling Glacier Movement Physics Wrong
Getting to the top has an unfortunate tendency to persuade people that the system is OK after all.
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After All Get OK People System Tendency Top Unfortunate
For paranoia about ‘what other people think’ : remember that only some hate, a very few love – and almost all just don’t care.
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Almost Care Few Hate Love Paranoia People Remember Think
One rarely falls in love without being as much attracted to what is interestingly wrong with someone as what is objectively healthy.
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Attract Fall Healthy Interest Object Rare Someone
Travel agents would be wiser to ask us what we hope to change about our lives rather than simply where we wish to go.
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Agent Ask Change Hope Simply Travel Wiser Wish
Writing isn’t a career choice. It’s self-medication that over time precipitates the madness it was meant to ward off.
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Career Choice Education Mad Precipitate Ward Write

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