Intimacy is the capacity to be rather weird with someone – and finding that that’s ok with them.
ALAIN DE BOTTONIf our lives are dominated by a search for happiness, then perhaps few activities reveal as much about the dynamics of this quest – in all its ardour and paradoxes – than our travels.
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Only by declaring a book completely finished can one start to see how much remains to be done on it.
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Which seems no less relevant in the secular realm than in the religious one-that we have within us a precious, childlike, vulnerable core which we should nourish and nurture on its turbulent journey through life.
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The company of certain people may excite our generosity and sensitivity, while that of others awakens our competitiveness and envy.
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Good sex isn’t just fun, it keeps us sane and happy. Having sex with someone makes us feel wanted, alive and potent.
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If we are inclined to forget how much there is in the world besides that which we anticipate, then works of art are perhaps a little to blame, for in them we find at work the same process of simplification or selection as in the imagination.
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The challenge for a human now is to be more interesting to another than his or her smartphone.
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I learnt to stop fantasising about the perfect job or the perfect relationship because that can actually be an excuse for not living.
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Happiness is impossible for longer than 15 minutes. We are the descendants of creatures who, above all else, worried.
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The moment we cry in a film is not when things are sad but when they turn out to be more beautiful than we expected them to be.
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Most of our childhood is stored not in photos, but in certain biscuits, lights of day, smells, textures of carpet.
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Man seems merely dust postponed: the sublime as an encounter – pleasurable, intoxicating, even – with human weakness in the face of strength, age and size of the universe.
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When work is not going well, it’s useful to remember that our identities stretch beyond what is on the business card, that we were people long before we became workers – and will continue to be human once we have put our tools down forever.
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We are all more intelligent than we are capable, and awareness of the insanity of love has never saved anyone from the disease.
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Rather than employing it as a supplement to active, conscious seeing, they used the medium as a substitute, paying less attention to the world than they had done previously, taking it on faith that photography automatically assured them possession of it.
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As adults, we try to develop the character traits that would have rescued our parents.
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